{"id":72037,"date":"2024-04-03T11:16:34","date_gmt":"2024-04-03T04:16:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=72037"},"modified":"2024-04-03T11:31:17","modified_gmt":"2024-04-03T04:31:17","slug":"how-to-rekindle-mother-son-bond-growing-apart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/how-to-rekindle-mother-son-bond-growing-apart\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Rekindle the Mother and Son Bond When You Are Growing Apart"},"content":{"rendered":"

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It didn\u2019t happen overnight. Maybe if it had it would have been easier, like a band-aid being ripped off.\n\n
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He used to lighten up when I would walk into the room. His tight hugs assured me that he was thinking about me when we were apart.\n
When we were together at home, he would follow me around, give me sweet compliments, and cuddle close any chance he got.\n
Over time, he stopped looking at me like I was a gift to this world. That makes sense. He is busy with sports and friends.\n
Then, like a knife to the heart when I went in to kiss his forehead, he pulled away.\n
No, this is not a break-up. It\u2019s much worse: My son is growing up and pulling away from me.\n
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It\u2019s No Surprise That Parenting Tween Boys is Challenging\n
During those tween years, your son is going through physical changes, social issues (like peer pressure) and most importantly big changes in their brain.\n
Scientists have studied the growing human brain and made some amazing discoveries about the prefrontal cortex, which is the part of the brain that controls impulses, cognitive skills, and memory.\n
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Previously, researchers thought that the foundation of the brain was developed when a child is five or six, but recent studies show that changes in the structure of the brain appear relatively late in child development.\n
In fact, the prefrontal cortex is still growing through the teenage years, so it\u2019s no surprise that parenting teen boys and little kids is difficult. These young adults are going through their own internal changes and power struggles. The teenage brain is a scary place.\n
Part of growing up is making bad decisions. And part of parenting tween boys is understanding this.\n
Rekindle the Bond with Your Teen or Tween Boy\n
Of course, my son and I still loved each other, but that deep connection we had was fading away. The things I did in the past to connect with him stopped working, and seemed to annoy him.\n
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I realized that if I wanted to strengthen our relationship, I would have to make some adjustments and listen to his heart.\n
When your teen sons\u00a0are growing up, it doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that they have to grow apart from you. Sometimes, like any relationship, you just have to work at it.\n
This practical advice will you help rekindle the relationship with your young man.\n
1) Show interest in something he loves\n
The best way to connect with your son – join, in on a hobby that he loves.\n
Does he enjoy video games, hiking, or playing or watching a sport?\n
Pick at least\u00a0one activity\u00a0that your son participates in, and show interest in it regularly. Don\u2019t just ask him about it \u2013 actively join in.\n
Ask your young or tween boy to teach you how to play video games, watch a show he loves, throw a baseball with him outside, or start riding bikes together.\n
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2) Gift him Extra Freedom\n
It sounds contradicting to bond with your son by giving him space, but it is an important step and a good idea.\n
Trust is an important factor in a healthy relationship with your son. He wants to feel independent and free.\n
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Show him that you have faith in him as a human by giving him some age-appropriate freedoms.\n
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Allow him to walk to a friend\u2019s house alone (if it is safe)\n
Give him tasks around the house (take out garbage, vacuum, or mow the lawn)\n
Ask him to help out with younger siblings, cousins, or friends\n\n
3) Talk to Him like a Grown-up\n
When I would say to my son \u201cHow\u2019s my baby boy!?\u201d, I could see him cringe.\n
I had to fight the urge to talk to him like the baby that I still picture him as.\n
He responded so much better when I would talk to him like an adult, and ask him open-ended questions about his life, such as:\n
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What was your favorite part of your day?\n
What would you like to do this weekend?\n\n
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Remember, your boy may be dealing with low self-esteem, mood swings, and other real-world issues. Be patient if he is hesitant to open up right away.\n
Also, open up about your own life. Talk to him about your own feelings and things going on in your life.\n
4) Schedule a Mom and Son Date Night\n
Spend intentional quality time together by scheduling a Mom and Son \u201cdate night\u201d. Don\u2019t call it a \u201cdate night\u201d though, any parents of boys will tell you they won\u2019t like that.\n
Try one of these simple ideas:\n
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Make a pizza together\n
Movie night\n
Go on a hike\n
Do a puzzle\n
Go bowling\n
Go to a sports game together\n\n\n\n
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It doesn\u2019t have to be anything complicated! The goal is to simply build closeness, foster trust, and make your son feel valued \u2013 while having a good time together.\n
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5) Don\u2019t forget to Show Affection to Tween Boys\n
Your son may not let you cuddle him for hours, but that doesn\u2019t mean you should stop showing him affection.\n
Offer your hand while you walk by him. Give him a hug when he leaves. Even a gentle squeeze on his shoulder will help him feel love.\n
Final Thoughts Parenting Tween Boys\n
Many parents have a hard time parenting teen boys, but if spend a long time understanding this unpredictable journey you will no doubt build a strong relationship.\n
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Win back your son\u2019s heart with these simple steps.\n
Build a dynamic relationship that will adjust as your son grows older and will stand the test of time. If you put a lot of time and love into your mom-son relationship, it will pay off greatly.\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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