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I\u00a0(23F) recently found out I\u2019m pregnant with\u00a0my (25M) boyfriend, Andrew\u2019s\u00a0child. We\u00a0have been dating for three years and our\u00a0relationship\u00a0is\u00a0pretty good. We\u00a0both want children eventually, though we\u00a0planned to\u00a0have them later after we\u2019re a\u00a0bit more established in\u00a0our\u00a0careers. The\u00a0pregnancy\u00a0came as\u00a0a\u00a0surprise. Initially, we\u00a0considered aborting or\u00a0placing the baby for adoption but decided to\u00a0keep\u00a0it. I\u00a0graduated college last year and have a\u00a0job that pays okay money with the possibility of\u00a0future promotions and raises. My\u00a0boyfriend works as\u00a0an\u00a0electrician and also makes good money, so\u00a0with both of\u00a0our incomes we\u00a0should be\u00a0able to\u00a0afford the baby.\n\n

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A\u00a0couple of\u00a0days after we\u00a0decided we\u00a0were keeping our child, Andrew told me\u00a0that he\u00a0wanted me\u00a0to\u00a0be\u00a0a\u00a0stay-at-home mom. He\u00a0said that he\u00a0believed that having an\u00a0SAHM was better for the baby, that he\u00a0was raised by\u00a0an\u00a0SAHM and loved\u00a0it, and he\u00a0wanted to\u00a0give our child that same life. He\u00a0said that he\u00a0had been talking with his boss, who agreed to\u00a0give him a\u00a0raise. And he\u00a0said with that raise plus working occasional overtime he\u00a0would be\u00a0able to\u00a0afford to\u00a0pay our rent, bills, groceries, and the costs for our baby. He\u00a0also said he\u00a0would marry\u00a0me, so\u00a0I would have extra security.\n

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I\u00a0admit\u00a0I burst out laughing when he\u00a0suggested this. It\u2019s just insane to\u00a0me. Sure, we\u00a0might be\u00a0able to\u00a0afford me\u00a0being a\u00a0SAHM, but it\u00a0would require budgeting every penny he\u00a0made. I\u00a0also just graduated\u00a0\u2014 does he\u00a0think\u00a0I went to\u00a0college for four years just to\u00a0be\u00a0a\u00a0SAHM and spend my\u00a0days doing his laundry and cooking his meals? Also, what if\u00a0he\u00a0gets sick or\u00a0dies? Also, I\u2019m the first person in\u00a0my\u00a0entire family to\u00a0earn my\u00a0degree. My\u00a0parents were immigrants and both had elementary school level education. I\u2019m very proud of\u00a0my\u00a0education and career\u00a0\u2014 this is\u00a0something he\u00a0knows as\u00a0I\u2019ve told him, so\u00a0I\u2019m surprised he\u00a0would ever suggest this.\n\n

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I\u00a0could tell he\u00a0was upset and hurt by\u00a0my\u00a0reaction, but he\u00a0accepted my\u00a0decision without arguing. I\u00a0was talking about this to\u00a0one of\u00a0my\u00a0friends, and she told me\u00a0that it\u00a0was mean of\u00a0me\u00a0to\u00a0laugh. Andrew was offering to\u00a0care for me\u00a0and my\u00a0baby, and\u00a0I responded by\u00a0mocking him. I\u00a0didn\u2019t mean it\u00a0to\u00a0come that way, just that his suggestion to\u00a0me\u00a0anyway was so\u00a0insane and stupid that\u00a0I couldn\u2019t help\u00a0it. Was I\u00a0wrong?\n\n\n\n

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Being a\u00a0stay-at-home\u00a0mom can be\u00a0really exhausting.\u00a0Everyone\u00a0has their own way of\u00a0being a\u00a0parent and raising their kids. There is\u00a0no\u00a0single right way, and each family finds what works best for them.\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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