For example, clinical psychologists Seth Meyers and Preston Ni explain how the actions of the parents can ruin the lives of their children. On the other hand, raising children is very difficult and no one has the right to be judgemental when it comes to someone\u2019s particular parenting style. But there\u2019s a very fine line between mistakes that parents make and the inappropriate behavior of toxic parents. This article can help determine and handle toxic situations that are harmful to our health.\n

10. \u201cBe\u00a0afraid of\u00a0me\u00a0but love\u00a0me.\u201d\n\n
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For toxic parents, an\u00a0emotional attack is\u00a0synonymous with love and attention.\u00a0In\u00a0such families, kids know how to\u00a0find out what mood their parents are in\u00a0by\u00a0the sound of\u00a0dropped keys or\u00a0by\u00a0the scrape of\u00a0footsteps.\u00a0Such children live in\u00a0constant fear and apprehension. These types of\u00a0toxic parents often get offended if\u00a0their kind actions are treated with suspicion. They claim,”I\u2019ve done everything for you and you\u2019re still so\u00a0ungrateful.”\n\n
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9. \u201cYou must deal with adult problems, but you still have no\u00a0rights.\u201d\n\n
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In\u00a0toxic families, parents share their responsibilities with their children. For example, a\u00a0child believes that it\u2019s specifically\u00a0their\u00a0bad behavior that makes their father uncontrollable.\n
Later, children will get dragged into adult scandals.\u00a0Teenagers will be\u00a0forced to\u00a0listen to\u00a0their parents\u2019 complaints, adjust to\u00a0a\u00a0\u201ccomplicated situation,\u201d put themselves in\u00a0their parents\u2019 shoes, help, tolerate, and console. Unfortunately, in\u00a0these cases, children have no\u00a0right to\u00a0express their opinion.\n\n
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8. \u201cBe\u00a0the best, but don\u2019t forget that you\u2019re not special.\u201d\n\n
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Narcissistic parents expect their children to\u00a0perform at\u00a0the\u00a0highest level.\u00a0However, all of\u00a0the child\u2019s achievements are taken for granted. Disparaging comments can truly ruin the lives of\u00a0children because it\u00a0makes them grow up\u00a0believing that they\u2019re always a\u00a0disappointment to\u00a0their parents.\n\n
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7. \u201cOpen up\u00a0to\u00a0me, but don\u2019t be\u00a0surprised at\u00a0ridicule.\u201d\n\n
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Toxic parents force their children to\u00a0be\u00a0sincere and sometimes even make them feel guilty if\u00a0they don\u2019t want to\u00a0share their feelings. Later, that same information is\u00a0used against their children. There are 2\u00a0ways this can happen:\n
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Relatives, neighbors, and other people are all aware of\u00a0whatever the child has shared with their parents. And the parents really don\u2019t see anything wrong with that.\n
A\u00a0child gives their parents an\u00a0opportunity to\u00a0scold them or\u00a0to\u00a0add sarcastic comments.\n\n\n
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6. \u201cYou\u2019re bad, so\u00a0don\u2019t even try to\u00a0become better.\u201d\n\n
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The lower a\u00a0child\u2019s self-esteem is, the easier it\u00a0is\u00a0to\u00a0control them. Toxic parents discuss their child\u2019s failures and flaws and, in\u00a0most cases,\u00a0they comment on\u00a0their child\u2019s appearance because it\u2019s one of\u00a0the touchiest subjects.\u00a0If\u00a0there are no\u00a0\u201cobvious flaws,\u201d they just make them\u00a0up.\n
Such parents instill an inferiority complex in their children and they don\u2019t want to see their child try new things and succeed. Toxic people don\u2019t want to have a successful child who demonstrates their willpower.\n\n
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5. \u201cImprove yourself and forget about your plans for the future.\u201d\n\n
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Parents want their children to\u00a0succeed but\u00a0they don\u2019t care how they\u2019re going to\u00a0do\u00a0it.\u00a0For example, they can expect their child to\u00a0build a\u00a0successful career just as\u00a0long as\u00a0they never leave the house.\n
A\u00a0narcissistic parent will get excited about their child\u2019s achievements for only 2\u00a0reasons:\n
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They enjoy boasting about their success so\u00a0that others envy them.\n
Successful children guarantee a\u00a0better life for the parents.\n\n
Sometimes parents just remind children that there\u2019s a\u00a0huge distance between them and their cherished goals.\n\n
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4. \u201cFollow my\u00a0instructions, but blame yourself if\u00a0you fail.\u201d\n\n
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In\u00a0this case, parents treat their child like an\u00a0object: they make their own plans and expect their children to\u00a0follow along. By\u00a0the way, they don\u2019t care about the consequences of\u00a0having such total control all the time.\u00a0If\u00a0something goes wrong, it\u2019s not their fault.\n\n
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3. \u201cGo\u00a0away, but don\u2019t leave me\u00a0alone.\u201d\n\n
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In\u00a0healthy families, parents help their kids move out and live their own life. Toxic parents\u00a0never want to\u00a0let their children go\u00a0but they always point out that the house, the money, and the food belongs to\u00a0them.\u00a0Any options or\u00a0objections from the children is\u00a0ignored in\u00a0such cases.\n
What do\u00a0such parents really want? They want their obedient children to\u00a0stay by\u00a0their side!\n\n
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2. \u201cAccept our help, but stop exploiting\u00a0us.\u201d\n\n
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These parents offer something that their children can actually do\u00a0without but any refusal causes resentment. A\u00a0child starts thinking, \u201cMy\u00a0parents probably just want some company and want to\u00a0feel needed.\u201d So\u00a0they accept the help, thank the parents, and offer something in\u00a0return. But there\u2019s no\u00a0happy ending because the parents will always remind their children of\u00a0that \u201cfavor\u201d they did for them.\n
Kids turn into prisoners:\n
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If\u00a0they refuse their parents\u2019 help.\u00a0Children feel that it\u2019s rude to\u00a0decline a\u00a0relative\u2019s offer to\u00a0help.\n
In\u00a0case they accept their parents\u2019 help.\u00a0Children feel that they should be\u00a0grateful to\u00a0their parents for their support and must be\u00a0ready to\u00a0help at\u00a0any moment.\n\n\n
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1. \u201cTrust\u00a0me, but always keep an\u00a0eye out.\u201d\n\n
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Private life? Personal space? Neither exist for children of\u00a0toxic parents.\n
If you try to restrict access to your personal territory, parents accuse you of distrust. Even your own apartment or house won\u2019t protect a grown child since these types of parents just use emergency spare keys. And their children must always answer all the questions \u2014 \u201cWhy didn\u2019t you wash that cup?\u201d or \u201cWhy did you waste money on that rubbish?\u201d Such parents have no respect for the lives and the personal decisions of their children.\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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