\u00a0Even though she loves her family and her job, she feels upset because some people still think moms should only stay home. She wants to share her story to show how many women face this pressure and why it\u2019s important to support all moms, no matter if they work or stay at home.\n

What\u00a0happened.\n\n
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\u00abI(31F) am\u00a0a\u00a0manager for cybersecurity engineering for a\u00a0big tech company. My\u00a0husband is\u00a0an\u00a0internal medicine specialist. I\u00a0make over 200k a\u00a0year, and he\u00a0recently started making his full salary around 400k.\n
We\u00a0had our first child around 2\u00a0years ago, and I\u2019m pregnant with our second. My\u00a0family is\u00a0pretty open-minded about\u00a0it, but my\u00a0husband\u2019s family are old-fashioned and there is\u00a0a\u00a0consensus from them that women who are married with children shouldn\u2019t be\u00a0working.\u00bb\n\n
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\u00abSo\u00a0I\u2019ve been getting \u201ehints\u201c from them that\u00a0I should be\u00a0a\u00a0stay at\u00a0home mom and leave the money making to\u00a0my\u00a0husband. I\u00a0don\u2019t want to\u00a0leave my\u00a0job and my\u00a0company is\u00a0relatively understanding. I\u00a0got 6\u00a0months off (3\u00a0months with full pay and 3\u00a0months without) for my\u00a0first child and was able to\u00a0keep my\u00a0current position. The male members of\u00a0my\u00a0team are also able to\u00a0take paternity leave.\n
So\u00a0I\u00a0don\u2019t see why\u00a0I have to\u00a0leave my\u00a0job. I\u00a0also paid most of\u00a0the bills while my\u00a0husband wasn\u2019t making much as\u00a0a\u00a0resident.\u00bb\n
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\u00abMy\u00a0husband and\u00a0I outsource all our cleaning, grocery delivery, lawn maintenance, etc., so\u00a0all we\u00a0do\u00a0is\u00a0cook. So\u00a0almost all our time at\u00a0home is\u00a0spending time together as\u00a0a\u00a0family. But my\u00a0MIL has commented how it\u2019s not right\u00a0I outsource these things because a\u00a0mother shows her love by\u00a0cleaning after her kids and husband.\n
My\u00a0MIL recently came over and while eating dinner she said the food was great and complemented me\u00a0and\u00a0I said my\u00a0husband made the food. She was shocked and said it\u00a0wasn\u2019t right that my\u00a0husband has to\u00a0do\u00a0any work after his long shift. I\u00a0got annoyed and said that\u00a0I was working longer than him today, and she said well then you should quit so\u00a0you don\u2019t need\u00a0to.\n
I\u00a0got mad and told her it\u2019s ridiculous to\u00a0expect me\u00a0to\u00a0quit just because she has old-fashioned ideas that women need to\u00a0be\u00a0on\u00a0their knees scrubbing away. My\u00a0MIL was offended, but my\u00a0husband told her it\u2019s already be\u00a0settled, and I\u2019m going to\u00a0still be\u00a0working. But everyone always telling me\u00a0I\u2019m a\u00a0bad mom if\u00a0I don\u2019t quit my\u00a0job has me\u00a0worn down.\u00bb\n\n
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People on\u00a0the Internet supported the working mom.\n
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\u00abGirl, go get that money. Some women like working, let them work. Maybe consider both sides. In a few years will you regret not staying home with your kids who are now older, or will you regret having quit your job giving into the pressures around you? Do what you wanna do!\u00bb Chemical-Froyo-6286 \/ Reddit\n
\u00abIt\u2019s not only about the money. You spent the entirety of\u00a0your adult life studying and building a\u00a0career, and they just expect you to\u00a0give it\u00a0all up\u00a0for what? To\u00a0do\u00a0something you don\u2019t enjoy and that you can outsource for a\u00a0fraction of\u00a0the income you get from doing the stuff that you do\u00a0like. Ridiculous.\u00bb\u00a0Helpful_Hour1984\u00a0\/ Reddit\n\n
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\u00abThe only ones who should be commenting on your personal business is you and your husband. You don\u2019t owe anyone else any explanation or apologies for how you live your lives. You don\u2019t owe them any accounting of your finances, either. It\u2019s none of their business, regardless of being related to you.\u00bb LoveBeach8 \/ Reddit\n
\u00abIs your husband a bad dad for not being a stay at home dad? Uh, no, because it\u2019s not socially expected of him even though he could easily stay at home just as well as you could. All he\u2019d have to do is give up his job, his identity, his passion, and his sense of independence. Okay, maybe he\u2019d have some of that, but clearly it\u2019s a lot to ask. To be a good mom you need to be a happy, fulfilled person. It sounds like you are.\u00bb corgihuntress \/ Reddit\n\n
Some think being a stay-at-home mom is easy, but it\u2019s actually really tough. It\u2019s not just about cleaning, cooking, budgeting, and taking care of the kids. Even though these jobs are important, stay-at-home moms often don\u2019t get the respect they deserve. One mom bravely shared her story to show how challenging it can be and how people don\u2019t always appreciate what stay-at-home moms do.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
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