The issue is that her elderly parents lost their home and asked to stay with her. However, the woman refused, citing valid reasons. Now, she has become the enemy of all her relatives.\n

She explained what happened.\n\n
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I\u00a0(33F) have been living in\u00a0my\u00a0own home for a\u00a0few years. I\u00a0bought it\u00a0with my\u00a0own money and have worked hard to\u00a0make it\u00a0a\u00a0comfortable and safe place after growing up\u00a0in\u00a0a\u00a0very unstable environment. My\u00a0parents (60s) have always been terrible with money, constantly making poor financial decisions despite my\u00a0efforts to\u00a0help them budget.\n
Recently, they lost their house due to\u00a0foreclosure. They reached out to\u00a0me, asking if\u00a0they could move in\u00a0temporarily while they get back on\u00a0their feet. But two additional adults would really stretch the limits of\u00a0my\u00a0house, and\u00a0I value my\u00a0privacy and independence.\n
More importantly, my\u00a0parents have a\u00a0history of\u00a0being overbearing and disrespecting my\u00a0boundaries. The last time my\u00a0parents stayed with\u00a0me, they criticized everything about my\u00a0lifestyle, rearranged furniture without asking, and even got into an\u00a0argument with one of\u00a0my\u00a0neighbors.\n
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I\u00a0offered to\u00a0help them find an\u00a0affordable rental and even offered to\u00a0pay their first month of\u00a0rent. I\u00a0also found government assistance programs they can apply for. They refused, saying that\u00a0family\u00a0should stick together and that it\u00a0was my\u00a0duty to\u00a0help them in\u00a0their time of\u00a0need.\n
My\u00a0siblings are divided\u00a0\u2014 my\u00a0older brother thinks I\u2019m heartless, while my\u00a0younger sister understands my\u00a0concerns. Both of\u00a0them live in\u00a0smaller apartments, so\u00a0they do\u00a0not have the option to\u00a0host my\u00a0parents.\n\n
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My\u00a0parents have been guilt-tripping me, saying they took care of\u00a0me\u00a0growing\u00a0up, and now it\u2019s my\u00a0turn to\u00a0take care of\u00a0them. My\u00a0parents are now telling extended family that I\u2019m abandoning them, and I\u00a0am getting messages from relatives. It\u2019s making me\u00a0second-guess my\u00a0decision, even though\u00a0I know my\u00a0mental health would suffer if\u00a0they moved\u00a0in.\n
Was I\u00a0wrong for refusing to\u00a0let my\u00a0parents move in\u00a0with me\u00a0after they lost their house? Should I\u00a0be more willing to\u00a0accommodate them, or\u00a0am\u00a0I right to\u00a0stick to\u00a0my\u00a0own well-being and boundaries? I\u2019m feeling very conflicted and could use some outside perspective.\n\n
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People stood on\u00a0her side.\n\n
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You don\u2019t want them to move in, so you offered another way of helping through financial means, etc. You are helping your family in need. They turned it down. You have the right to say no. \u00a9 ElectricalTaste4519 \/ Reddit\n
you have offered a very generous and more sustainable solution. I agree with other commentators….if you let them move in, they\u2019ll never move out. They will take over your house, try to control your life and will amp up the expectations of what you \u201cowe\u201d them and will keep guilt-tripping you (& abusing you) until the end. Send a copy of this to everyone parents have involved to make sure that everyone knows what solutions you have offered to help them with (because it\u2019s likely that haven\u2019t told them about this) THEN add something like \u201cso let\u2019s all pull together like family to help. What are you able to offer in addition to the solutions I\u2019ve proposed to help smooth the transition into their own rental property, with support in place?\u201d Don\u2019t give in, it\u2019s not in anybody\u2019s best interests for your parents to move in with you. You don\u2019t \u201cowe\u201d them anything. \u00a9 Iworkinacupboard \/ Reddit\n
You were offering solutions, which they refused. Based on their attitude when they stayed with you before (criticizing your lifestyle, generally disrespecting your boundaries), it sounds like they\u2019re the kind of parents who look down on their children, never recognizing the fact that they\u2019ve grown up and are entitled to make decisions about their own lives. They even said that it\u2019s your \u201cduty\u201d to look after them as repayment for them fulfilling their legal obligation to provide for you while growing up. That\u2019s pretty twisted if you ask me. \u00a9 asleep_awake \/ Reddit\n\n
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Your parents are refusing to listen to any options you offer because they want to live with you in order to be able not to take responsibility for anything. \u00a9 Kukka63 \/ Reddit\n
Tell any of the relatives that are trying to guilt-trip you that they are free to host your parents. That should shut them up pretty quick. Also, you don\u2019t owe your parents anything because they raised you. They chose to have children, and it was literally their job to take care of you while you were growing up. You have offered other solutions to try to help them, which was very kind of you, but you are not obligated to give up your safe space because they refuse other options. \u00a9 passthebluberries \/ Reddit\n
You know how it would go \u2014 you have experience with your parents\u2019 behavior when in your home. No \u2014 means \u2014 no. If the parents want to play the \u2019poor abandoned us\u2019 card after you have found an assistance program and offered to pay a month\u2019s rent \u2014 they are on their own. Perhaps one of your siblings should move to a larger place to take in your parents. Tell the relatives to back off…it\u2019s YOUR home. \u00a9 omeomi24 \/ Reddit\n
As a woman in her early 60s, I do not understand the parents are thinking. They just didn\u2019t pay their mortgage? How did they think that would end? Don\u2019t tell me that their mortgage was more than rent. In particular, with rental prices through the roof. Who gets to their 60s and thinks they don\u2019t have to pay their housing costs? You have to pay to live somewhere. \u00a9 Exact_Purchase765 \/ Reddit\n\n
Many parents are guilty of interfering in the lives of their adult children. Here is the story of a woman whose in-laws behaved unacceptably towards her daughter.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
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