{"id":74348,"date":"2024-07-26T09:22:44","date_gmt":"2024-07-26T02:22:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=74348"},"modified":"2024-07-26T09:22:44","modified_gmt":"2024-07-26T02:22:44","slug":"im-selling-my-home-to-escape-from-stepchildren-drama","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/im-selling-my-home-to-escape-from-stepchildren-drama\/","title":{"rendered":"I\u2019m Selling My Home to Escape From Stepchildren Drama"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<h2>He\u00a0explained\u00a0what happened.\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<p>In\u00a0November 2022, my\u00a0wife passed away, leaving me\u00a0with three adult stepchildren. Despite being in\u00a0their lives for over a\u00a0decade, they\u2019ve always been clear that I\u00a0am not their parent. Their biological father has retired to\u00a0the Philippines.\n</p><p>The stepchildren, aged 21, 22, and\u00a025, faced the high cost of\u00a0living in\u00a0our city. We\u00a0provided them with a\u00a0place to\u00a0live, charging no\u00a0rent so\u00a0they could save money. The youngest is\u00a0still in\u00a0school, while the other two are employed.\n\n</p><div class='\"fe475c3f28885ceec1f1\"' tabindex='\"-1\"'>\n<div data-test-id='\"article-image-3\"'><picture class='\"b10992b7e7307cb7c32f\"'><source srcset='\"https:\/\/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li\/resize\/728x\/webp\/39b\/324\/72b8585e7f8750e34486850bda.jpg.webp' type='\"image\/webp\"'></source><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' id='\"image28011256\"' class='\"e33ce0f82f0e7404cc63\"' title='\"\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li%5C/resize%5C/728x%5C/jpg%5C/39b%5C/324%5C/72b8585e7f8750e34486850bda.jpg%5C%22" alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"485\"'>\n<div data-test-id='\"article-image-3\"'>\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<p>However, after their mother\u2019s passing, they stopped contributing to\u00a0household chores. I\u00a0covered all the bills\u2014power, water, Internet, and utilities\u2014and even provided food for the youngest. Frustrated, I\u00a0hired a\u00a0cleaning lady to\u00a0help manage the mess.\n\n</p><div class='\"fe475c3f28885ceec1f1\"' tabindex='\"-1\"'>\n<div data-test-id='\"article-image-5\"'><picture class='\"b10992b7e7307cb7c32f\"'><source srcset='\"https:\/\/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li\/resize\/728x\/webp\/a53\/2f9\/579e915971ac6a83a99ab7dbc9.jpg.webp' type='\"image\/webp\"'></source><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' id='\"image28011257\"' class='\"e33ce0f82f0e7404cc63\"' title='\"\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li%5C/resize%5C/728x%5C/jpg%5C/a53%5C/2f9%5C/579e915971ac6a83a99ab7dbc9.jpg%5C%22" alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"784\"'>\n<div data-test-id='\"article-image-5\"'>\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<p>Finally, I\u00a0decided to\u00a0sell the house. Its value had skyrocketed since\u00a0I purchased\u00a0it, and\u00a0I could retire comfortably in\u00a0the Philippines. The sale happened swiftly, and\u00a0I moved to\u00a0my\u00a0cabin. Each stepchild received $10,000, and\u00a0I informed them of\u00a0the sale. They weren\u2019t oblivious; they\u2019d seen the \u201cFor Sale\u201d sign and attended open houses.\n\n</p><div class='\"a7a009a2bc69238836f2' dbd3833dbc73d3acd29b>\n<aside class='\"ca17a89d1f9c34c777a4\"' data-test-id='\"advert-d-inread-r-1\"' data-adunit-type='\"d-inread-r-1\"' data-adunit-started='\"true\"' data-state='\"rendered\"'>\n<div class='\"f5404ebf8cd5437b33d6' c8d44fe6e497120eb20e><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' id='\"image28011258\"' class='\"e33ce0f82f0e7404cc63\"' title='\"\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li%5C/resize%5C/728x%5C/jpg%5C/a66%5C/b46%5C/caef4a57d5aae66cfb9733f79f.jpg%5C%22" alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"695\"'>\n<div>\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<p>Now, they\u2019re upset about losing their home. While they grew up\u00a0there, they never treated it\u00a0as\u00a0more than a\u00a0place to\u00a0sleep. I\u00a0believe their late mother would be\u00a0disappointed by\u00a0their behavior.\n</p><p>They pooled their money for an\u00a0apartment but relying solely on\u00a0my\u00a0gift, they\u2019ll face financial struggles within a\u00a0year.\n\n</p><div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<h2>People stood on\u00a0his side.\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cRaise your hand if your parents gave you $10k when you moved out. No hands? You separated from leeches.\u201d Oddjibberz \/ Reddit\n</li><li>\u201cThey were disrespectful to you and your home, and you weren\u2019t obligated to continue providing for them, especially after they became adults.\u201d Xoxo_emmmaa \/ Reddit\n</li><li>\u201cYou gave them nearly two years to start picking up after themselves and acting like they wanted to live there. They didn\u2019t. If seeing for sale signs and open houses didn\u2019t get them to realize that that\u2019s not really on you.\n</li><li>You also didn\u2019t have to give them money to be on their own, but you did.\n</li><li>You\u2019ve done enough, considering that they\u2019re adults. It sounds like if they had been picking up after themselves, you probably wouldn\u2019t have wanted to sell.\u201d Liss78 \/ Reddit<picture class='\"b10992b7e7307cb7c32f\"'><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' id='\"image28011259\"' class='\"e33ce0f82f0e7404cc63\"' title='\"\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li%5C/resize%5C/728x%5C/jpg%5C/06c%5C/a62%5C/635c20558bb5d2b631a04a980d.jpg%5C%22" alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"1006\"'>\n<li>\u201cYou\u2019re right \u2014 their mom would be disgusted with how her children behaved in your home, in which they were, ultimately, guests. Enjoy your newfound freedom from entitled adults.\u201d Current-Anybody9331 \/ Reddit\n</li><li>\u201cI sold my house to get rid of a freeloading, lazy brother, and my siblings blamed me for making him homeless. He was 59. Yet they wouldn\u2019t take him in. Some people will take advantage of you rather than standing on their own two feet.\u201d shockingRn \/ Reddit\n</li><li>\u201cThese people are adults. They have made it clear that you are not their father, presumably meaning that you can not tell them what to do. Not only have they been living in your house rent-free, but they haven\u2019t done their share of the housework, expecting you to do it or pay for it.\n<p>However, since you are indeed not their father, you don\u2019t owe them anything. You were generous to let them live in your house for over a year, and very generous to give them money to start their independent life. Now they will have to take responsibility for their finances and housekeeping \u2014 or experience homelessness and realize that they indeed have to take responsibility.\u201d DawnShakhar \/ Reddit<br>\nBlended families present unique challenges, and while some find effective ways to overcome them, others discover that separation becomes the only route to happiness.\n</p><p>Preview photo credit No_Competition7799 \/ Reddit, freepik \/ Freepik\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"</p><p>He\u00a0explained\u00a0what happened. In\u00a0November 2022, my\u00a0wife passed away, leaving me\u00a0with three adult stepchildren. Despite being in\u00a0their lives for over a\u00a0decade, they\u2019ve always been clear that I\u00a0am not their parent. Their biological father has retired to\u00a0the Philippines. The stepchildren, aged 21, 22, and\u00a025, faced the high cost of\u00a0living in\u00a0our city. 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