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\nIn a recent Reddit post, she admitted she\u2019s hit her breaking point \u2014 her mom turned up on her doorstep.\n
\u201cShe refused to work even when we were older. I remember my parents fighting about it. After their divorce, mom remarried almost instantly and relied on her (much older) husband,\u201d she wrote, \u201cwho died last year leaving everything for his adult kids and almost nothing for her.\u201d\n
After kicking her and her siblings out at 18, a mom has turned to her adult children to house her.\n
\u201cAfter the death of her second husband, mom moved in with my brother and his wife. She was supposed to look after their kids while they [worked]. This didn\u2019t work out, and they are kicking her out, which is totally my mom\u2019s fault \u2026 She was extremely mean to SIL, tried to run their household, acted like the queen, refused to watch the kids full time, which was their original agreement.\u201d\n
Not only did her mother\u2019s presence in her brother\u2019s household create tension in their marriage, but she also caused physical disturbances to their kids several times \u2014 including rashes from leaving diapers unchanged for several hours.\n
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As a parent, anyone who causes harm to your child should immediately be removed from their life, whether it\u2019s a family member or not.\n
It\u2019s what the couple decided to do; however, now, her daughter wrote, \u201cShe wants to move in with [her]\u2026 and she\u2019s claiming to help with [her] 2-year-old kid.\u201d\n
Her brother and sister-in-law housed their mom for several months, but she \u2018failed\u2019 to watch the kids and even \u2018caused issues\u2019 in their marriage.\n
Knowing the kind of treatment she got from her mother as a kid, along with the experience her brother shared, she knew that it wouldn\u2019t work out. \u201cAfter all, she always told us adult children should never live with their parents,\u201d she added, \u201cYes, we were both kicked out at 18 right after we finished school.\u201d\n
When she broke the news to her mom that she wouldn\u2019t be allowing her to stay, she said her mom had a meltdown. She cried that she had \u201cnowhere to go\u201d and made accusations of \u201cproviding\u201d for her in times of need. Of course, that was her responsibility as a mother \u2014 not just to provide shelter, food, and care \u2014 but to provide love and companionship, which she failed to do.\n
\u201cI told her when she kicked me out at 18 and I went to live on my friend\u2019s couch, I worked and eventually rented a room so\u2026that\u2019s what she should do \u2014 that\u2019s what everyone else does,\u201d she continued. \u201cShe asked me to at least pay her rent until she gets back on her feet. I said, \u2018No, you\u2019re a healthy working-age person; you should not be freeloading\u2019 (that\u2019s exactly what she told me).\u201d\n
Commenters urged her to distance herself because her mother hasn\u2019t done anything to deserve physical or emotional space in her life.\n
\u201cWhen a relative calls berating you for not housing your mother, your only response should be, \u2018I\u2019m so glad you called and that you\u2019re so concerned. I\u2019ll let Mom know you\u2019ve offered her lodging. Please reach out to her directly to make arrangements,\u2019\u201d one commenter wrote.\n
It\u2019s absolutely not her responsibility to care for this woman who made her life miserable as a child. She can only point to karma as evidence for her mother\u2019s misfortune now. Without an apology or acknowledgment of the irony of the situation, she was grappling with the reality of simply turning her mom away. Her mom didn\u2019t provide her with a sense of safety, comfort, or even understanding during the most vulnerable time in her life \u2014 why should she return the favor?\n
\u201cI do feel bad about people claiming I\u2019m a bad daughter,\u201d she said, ending the post. \u201cMainly because my mother was never a model mom herself; she never put her kids first and was generally disinterested in us unless she needed something. I mean, if she were nice, I\u2019d be happy to have her near.\u201d\n
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