Echo Woven is sure that modern problems require modern solutions. So we highlighted some outdated conceptions that parents should stop imposing on their children, imagined what would happen if we kept on following them, and came up with some pieces of useful advice.\n\n

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1. \u201cMy\u00a0child will get only the best.\u201d\n\n
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Raising a spoiled child is an easy task. Fredric Neuman, M.D. and Director of the Anxiety and Phobia Treatment Center, believes that a defining characteristic of a spoiled child is an unwillingness to acknowledge other people\u2019s wishes: \u201cThe child wants what they want and when they want.\u201d When parents indulge the child too much, they actually disservice them. As an adult, such a child becomes their own enemy: addiction, lack of responsibility and poor social skills, selfishness and using people for their own benefit make these people unhappy.\n
The best way out is to set boundaries, determine the duties of a child, pay attention to their manners and behavior, and not allow them to show any disrespect toward parents or other people. It also will be beneficial to teach a child to appreciate the labor and show them the value of money. For example, parents may help their child find their first part-time job.\n
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2. \u201cYou should always listen to\u00a0adults.\u201d\n\n
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Parents often dream of making their children always listen to them. But they don\u2019t think that the habit of constantly obeying and playing by the rules can be harmful to their children\u2019s future. The psychologist and the author of the book Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids, Laura Markham, is sure that obedient children turn into obedient adults.\n
Such adults have fewer chances to stand up for themselves and they\u2019re more likely to become victims of manipulators and unfaithful people. They also can just execute the orders without asking any questions and not take responsibility for their actions. That\u2019s why it\u2019s essential to teach your child how to say \u201cno\u201d and express their opinion.\n
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3. \u201cGetting an \u2019A\u2019 in\u00a0school is\u00a0good, getting a \u2019C\u2019 is\u00a0bad.\u201d\n\n
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The sure way to make your child suffer from anxiety their whole life is to impose a \u201cstraight-A student syndrome.\u201d The best thing any parent can do for their children is to explain that failures don\u2019t affect their relationship in any way and the child will be heard and loved in any case.\n
A clinical psychologist, Dr. Stephanie O\u2019Leary believes that failure may be beneficial to the kids for several reasons. It teaches children to deal with a negative situation, provides valuable life experience, and will help to find solutions to difficult situations in the future without being afraid of failure. This is probably where all those stories about successful low-performing students and straight-A students who aren\u2019t ready for real-life come from. The first ones are ready to overcome any difficulties and are up for the challenge. The latter kids are more likely not to try because they\u2019re afraid of failure.\n
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4. \u201cDon\u2019t fight and don\u2019t hit back.\u201d\n\n
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A person should know how to stand up for themselves. If parents try to beat into their child\u2019s head that under no circumstances they can offend another person, the child will just keep silent and suffer from bullies without saying a word. They won\u2019t be able to survive in a competitive environment in the future.\n
However, it can\u2019t be an excuse to teach a child to fight with every person they have a conflict with. So how should they deal with bullies? Get in a fight with them or just stand up for themselves verbally? This question has been widely discussed and psychologists came to the conclusion that a child should know that they have a right to protect themselves. And if parents teach their children how to stand up for themselves, they\u2019ll be giving them a lifelong present.\n
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5. \u201cYou should focus on\u00a0studying and I\u2019ll do\u00a0the rest for you.\u201d\n\n
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Parents shouldn\u2019t tell their children to\u00a0focus on\u00a0one main task and try to\u00a0solve the rest of\u00a0their problems for them. Any person should develop multitasking skills and be\u00a0able to\u00a0take responsibility for all spheres of\u00a0their life. But these skills often come with experience that a\u00a0child won\u2019t have if\u00a0they\u2019re raised with excessive care.\n
It\u00a0gets even worse when parents try to\u00a0protect their children from all their problems. Such children often act in\u00a0an\u00a0infantile and irresponsible manner when they grow\u00a0up.\n
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6. \u201cYou should go\u00a0to\u00a0college right after graduation.\u201d\n\n
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If the child doesn\u2019t know who they would like to become, they are more likely to choose the option suggested by their parents. Such a choice may become a big mistake and the child will regret it. To avoid that, parents shouldn\u2019t put too much pressure on a teenager and give them an opportunity to sort out their own plans for their life.\n
For that reason, in many countries, teenagers are encouraged to take a gap year, or a short break (about a year) between school graduation and college. During this time, teenagers can work, find an internship or undergo some courses, but most importantly, take their time and think about their plans for the future.\n
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7. \u201cOnly university degrees matter.\u201d\n\n
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Of course, higher education is important when we talk about jobs like an aircraft designer or a civil engineer. But it doesn\u2019t mean there will be a huge difference in paychecks. It depends on the country, the value of the exact occupation on the job market, the university rating, and the abilities of the students themselves. For example, while doctors have made it to the top on the list of jobs with the highest income in the US, in other countries the situation may be quite different.\n
There\u2019s also a curious tendency when in industries with high salaries (like beauty, IT, and film production) that a college degree is less important than the skills and experience a person has. That\u2019s why there are so many successful businessmen, beauty professionals, and artists without a college degree.\n
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8. \u201cA\u00a0part-time job will distract the child from school. It\u2019s better to\u00a0focus on\u00a0studying.\u201d\n\n
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While it isn\u2019t necessary to graduate with honors, getting a part-time job may bring valuable experience, social connections, and maybe even determine the future of a child. When young people start to work early, they learn how to meet deadlines, make do-to lists, and receive feedback from their supervisors. Nowadays, employers understand the value of a part-time job so it\u2019ll look good on a resume and help a fresh graduate stand out among other candidates.\n
Experts believe that 65% of current school students will work in spheres that don\u2019t exist now. That\u2019s why not only specific knowledge matters, but also communication skills, critical thinking, and self-sufficiency.\n
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9. \u201cOther people will decide for\u00a0us.\u201d\n\n
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Some people like to\u00a0wait until someone else will make a\u00a0decision for them. And they teach their children not to\u00a0stand out, not to\u00a0speak too much, and not to\u00a0do\u00a0other people\u2019s jobs. But what can this cause? Such children are more likely to\u00a0grow up\u00a0indifferent and won\u2019t be\u00a0able to\u00a0express or\u00a0stand up\u00a0for their interests. And it\u2019s not only about a\u00a0separate individual, but it\u2019s also about healthy altruism when people don\u2019t feel indifferent about common problems.\n
The position, \u201cIt\u00a0doesn\u2019t have anything to\u00a0do\u00a0with\u00a0me,\u201d doesn\u2019t look good on\u00a0anybody. It\u2019s much better to\u00a0teach a\u00a0child about the nuances of\u00a0the world, political and social systems, and the environment and beauty of\u00a0nature. The more inspired, passionate, and conscious people we\u00a0bring\u00a0up, the more scientific breakthroughs, social projects, and ecological initiatives we\u2019ll see. That way, the world will become a\u00a0better place.\n\n
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What clich\u00e9s and harmful ideas aren\u2019t on\u00a0this list?\n\n
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