{"id":76466,"date":"2024-08-12T11:21:59","date_gmt":"2024-08-12T04:21:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=76466"},"modified":"2024-08-12T11:23:18","modified_gmt":"2024-08-12T04:23:18","slug":"i-heard-a-secret-conversation-between-my-husband-and-his-work-buddy-ive-never-been-this-humiliated","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/i-heard-a-secret-conversation-between-my-husband-and-his-work-buddy-ive-never-been-this-humiliated\/","title":{"rendered":"I Heard a Secret Conversation Between My Husband and His Work Buddy \u2014 I\u2019ve Never Been This Humiliated"},"content":{"rendered":"
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She\u00a0wrote:\n

\u201cI\u2019ve been with my\u00a0husband for 15\u00a0years, married for 11. Amazing relationship, small bumps of\u00a0course but nothing like this.\n

I\u2019ve always made lunch for him to\u00a0take to\u00a0work, up\u00a0until a\u00a0little over a\u00a0month ago, when he\u00a0said that a\u00a0new food stand opened up\u00a0outside of\u00a0his office, and that he\u00a0had been having lunch there instead because it\u00a0was really good.\u00a0So\u00a0he\u00a0just completely stopped asking me\u00a0for lunch. I\u00a0had maybe packed 5\u00a0during this time frame for him, but I\u2019m not even sure he\u00a0was eating them now.\u201d\n\n

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She\u00a0continued,\n

\u201cThe other day, I\u00a0received a\u00a0call from my\u00a0husband, I\u00a0thought he\u00a0was calling me\u00a0during his lunch break, but turned out he\u00a0had butt-dialed me.\u00a0At\u00a0first, I\u00a0didn\u2019t hear much, just his voice, while he\u00a0talked to\u00a0someone,\u00a0so\u00a0I was about to\u00a0hang up\u00a0until\u00a0I heard another voice.\u00a0I\u00a0got curious, so\u00a0I muted my\u00a0call at\u00a0work and listened. It\u00a0was just a\u00a0standard conversation with a\u00a0woman at\u00a0first, he\u00a0was praising her cooking A\u00a0LOT. Which of\u00a0course made me\u00a0realize that he\u00a0was eating lunch this coworker had made. I\u00a0was a\u00a0bit peeved, but\u00a0I thought to\u00a0myself there should be\u00a0an\u00a0explanation for sure.\n

However, I\u00a0completely lost it\u00a0when\u00a0I heard her\u00a0saying,\u00a0\u2018…So tell\u00a0me, was it\u00a0better than your wife\u2019s?\u2019 To\u00a0which my\u00a0husband replied, \u2018Oh\u00a0yeah, no\u00a0doubt! She tries her best of\u00a0course, but yours wasn\u2019t tasteless for a\u00a0start,\u2019 followed by\u00a0laughing.\n

Now, what\u2019s that supposed to\u00a0mean? 15\u00a0years of\u00a0cooking, and NOW he\u00a0has a\u00a0complaint?! And not even to\u00a0me,\u00a0but to\u00a0some coworker?! Also, that absolutely isn\u2019t innocent on\u00a0her end, right? That\u2019s so\u00a0weird, why even did she bring me\u00a0up? Anyway,\u00a0I\u00a0raised hell; I\u00a0ended the call and sent him a\u00a0message not to \u2018worry about my\u00a0tasteless cooking anymore\u2019 and that he \u2018can eat from the bin\u2019 from now\u00a0on.\u201d\n

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She\u00a0went on\u00a0saying,\n

\u201cHe\u00a0has apologized, saying that he\u00a0loves my\u00a0food, and that he\u00a0was just trying to\u00a0seem cool in\u00a0front of\u00a0his coworker. I\u00a0asked him why he\u00a0lied about where he\u00a0was getting lunch from, and he\u00a0said that initially he\u00a0did get it\u00a0from that stand,\u00a0but then the coworker started offering, and he\u00a0didn\u2019t want to\u00a0tell me\u00a0because he\u00a0thought that\u00a0I would get jealous.\n

So, I\u2019ve been airing him since. I\u2019m still pissed to\u00a0be\u00a0honest, I\u00a0haven\u2019t made him lunch or\u00a0dinner since he\u00a0said that he\u00a0dislikes it\u00a0so\u00a0much.\u00a0Today, he\u00a0said that he\u00a0has apologized, and that\u00a0I shouldn\u2019t keep punishing him like that, but I\u2019m literally an\u00a0inch from going to\u00a0my\u00a0parents\u2019.\u00a0I\u00a0have a\u00a0suitcase with my\u00a0clothes packed ready under our bed.\n

My\u00a0dad thinks it\u00a0was a\u00a0stupid comment but that\u00a0I should work it\u00a0out, while my\u00a0mom is\u00a0on\u00a0my\u00a0side regardless of\u00a0my\u00a0decision. I\u2019m thinking about leaving for a\u00a0few days at\u00a0least, but\u00a0I honestly just want some reassurance if\u00a0that\u2019s what\u2019s best to\u00a0do?\u201d\n\n

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Other Redditors joined the conversation, validating the woman\u2019s doubts, leaving comments such\u00a0as:\n\n
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    • Verbally throwing his wife under the bus and denigrating her to\u00a0sound cool is\u00a0already messed\u00a0up, even to\u00a0a\u00a0fellow male co-worker. But doing that with a\u00a0female colleague while eating a\u00a0lunch she\u2019s brought in\u00a0for him, and she feels comfortable enough to\u00a0join in\/initiate the denigration, is\u00a0wrong on\u00a0a\u00a0whole new level. They are definitely having at\u00a0least an\u00a0emotional affair and likely heading their way to\u00a0a\u00a0physical one.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0SingleBat5604\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
    • \u00a0There are multiple issues with this situation. The cooking comment is the least of the worries… I\u2019d be very hurt by it all, lunch, woman, food comment, packing lunch denial, laughing, and tried to hide all of it. I\u2019d run fast and far. \u00a9 Mindless_Analyzing \/ Reddit\n
    • I\u00a0definitely wouldn\u2019t be\u00a0asking a\u00a0married man if\u00a0my\u00a0cooking was better than his wife\u2019s. But then, I\u00a0wouldn\u2019t be\u00a0cooking for a\u00a0married coworker, either. And why exactly did he\u00a0need to\u00a0look \u201ccool\u201d in\u00a0front of\u00a0this coworker? It\u2019s because he\u2019s attracted to\u00a0her.
      \nOtherwise, he\u00a0could easily have said something like, \u201cMy\u00a0wife\u2019s cooking is\u00a0great, but this is\u00a0different for a\u00a0change.\u201d Also, he\u00a0lied about where he\u00a0was getting his lunches… Once you start lying to\u00a0your\u00a0spouse\u00a0in\u00a0order to\u00a0spend time with someone you\u2019re attracted\u00a0to, you\u2019re entering affair territory.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0AWindUpBird\u00a0\/ Reddit\n\n\n\n\n
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