{"id":78203,"date":"2024-08-26T12:43:38","date_gmt":"2024-08-26T05:43:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=78203"},"modified":"2024-08-26T12:43:38","modified_gmt":"2024-08-26T05:43:38","slug":"my-in-laws-constantly-exclude-me-from-dinners-so-i-decided-to-teach-them-a-lesson","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/my-in-laws-constantly-exclude-me-from-dinners-so-i-decided-to-teach-them-a-lesson\/","title":{"rendered":"My In-Laws Constantly Exclude Me From Dinners, So I Decided to Teach Them a Lesson"},"content":{"rendered":"

Amidst familial expectations and societal biases, a young woman\u2019s \u00abfamily trip\u00bb with her in-laws takes an unexpected turn. Struggling against perceptions of class and etiquette, she confronts a stark choice with profound implications.\n

This is her story\n

I (F26) went on a “family trip” with my in-laws 2 weeks ago. MIL always thought that I am a bit “ignorant” and “backward” and that just because I come from lower class family (compared to hers) that I have no “etiquette”\n

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Upon arriving at the hotel, they arranged for a dinner outing at a posh restaurant. My husband deliberately kept me in the dark, informing me at the last minute after he had already dressed. When I inquired about his plans, he casually mentioned that he and the family were dining out, but I wasn\u2019t invited.\n

His reasoning? His mother \u00abassumed\u00bb that my unfamiliarity with the cuisine and dining etiquette at such a place warranted my exclusion, deeming it better for me to stay in and dine at the hotel. Without protest, I allowed him to leave and promptly packed my bags, catching the first flight back home.\n

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Upon learning of my departure, my husband was beside himself, bombarding me with calls. He accused me of acting irrationally and ungratefully, alleging that I had embarrassed him in front of his family, despite his fervent pleas for me to join the trip. Our heated exchange culminated in him resorting to the silent treatment upon his return home. Additionally, his family indirectly criticized me on Facebook for my actions.\n

The story was shared online. The woman asked netizens if she overreacted in this situation, but users deliberately agreed she was a \u2019good guy\u2019 here.\n
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  • It\u2019s offensive for your husband and his family to exclude you from this dinner. Their reason for doing so is atrocious. It\u2019s even worse for him not to inform you in advance that he\u2019d be having dinner without you. That your husband doesn\u2019t understand why his behavior and his family\u2019s behavior is completely unacceptable. svmonkey \/ Reddit\n
  • His family isn\u2019t nice, but he didn\u2019t defend you when his mother said such atrocities? He actually thinks his mother is right, and you don\u2019t belong there. Get out, now, fast, and find yourself someone who appreciates you. ****saxo \/ Reddit\n
  • Wow! When it comes to world-class rudeness, this one is right up there. Does your husband even like you??? ArtShapiro \/ Reddit\n
  • It sounds like you have a husband problem. Did he go along with you not being included in going to dinner? That is incredibly rude and disrespectful. He didn\u2019t defend you. He could have declined the dinner invitation and gone out with you instead.\n
  • If you want this relationship to last, you both need to go to counselling to learn communication and boundaries. He also has to grow a spine to deal with his mother. Ok_Nobody4967 \/ Reddit\n\n

    Another user wrote a long comment about the whole situation:\n
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    • But this isn\u2019t just about your in-laws. Your husband is just as rude & disrespectful as they are. For a group of people who think they are better than you, they fail big time on basic etiquette.\n
    • First, they tried to just invite your husband without you. Rude. He shouldn\u2019t have to beg them & definitely shouldn\u2019t have told you that he did, as if he deserves a cookie for that, or it excuses his later behavior.\n
    • They openly disrespect you on the trip & plan a family dinner, purposely leaving you out because you are too low class to appreciate it. One, that\u2019s extremely low-class behavior from them. Two, your husband hid it from you rather than demand his family treat you with basic respect & human dignity.\n
    • They all got what they wanted, you are gone. But they are still punishing you and berating you. You literally cannot do anything right for your in-laws and your husband unless you stand there like a pathetic loser taking all their mistreat for their entertainment. KindlyCelebration223 \/ Reddit\n\n

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