{"id":78456,"date":"2024-08-27T17:26:01","date_gmt":"2024-08-27T10:26:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=78456"},"modified":"2024-08-27T17:26:01","modified_gmt":"2024-08-27T10:26:01","slug":"ive-been-helping-my-sister-for-years-with-no-return-today-i-kicked-her-out-of-the-house","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/ive-been-helping-my-sister-for-years-with-no-return-today-i-kicked-her-out-of-the-house\/","title":{"rendered":"I\u2019ve Been Helping My Sister for Years With No Return, Today I Kicked Her Out of the House"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='\"code-block' code-block-3><ins class='\"adsbygoogle\"' data-ad-client='\"ca-pub-9999847103134086\"' data-ad-slot='\"9809183439\"' data-ad-format='\"auto\"' data-full-width-responsive='\"true\"' data-adsbygoogle-status='\"done\"' data-ad-status='\"unfilled\"'>\n<div id='\"aswift_0_host\"'>\n<p>\n</p><div id='\"quads-ad98778\"' class='\"quads-location' quads-ad98778 data-lazydelay='\"3000\"'>\n<figure id='\"attachment_160093\"' class='\"wp-caption' alignnone aria-describedby='\"caption-attachment-160093\"'><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' class='\"size-full' wp-image-160093 src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/timelesslife.info%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/08%5C/1-9.jpg%5C%22" sizes='\"auto,' srcset='\"https:\/\/timelesslife.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/1-9.jpg' https: alt='\"\"' width='\"650\"' height='\"602\"' title='\"\"'><figcaption id='\"caption-attachment-160093\"' class='\"wp-caption-text\"'>For illustrative purpose only\n<p>The person in today\u2019s story felt it was a no-brainer to support their sister by providing her with a place to stay, financial assistance, and unending emotional support without expecting anything in return. However, everything changed when disappointment entered the picture.\n</p><h2><strong>Here\u2019s what happened.\n<p>My sister has been living with us for the past four years, on and off, paying bills when she can\u2019t afford them. I ask if she helps around the house\u2014I\u2019ve been paying her phone bill for the past two years, and I\u2019m also the only one who puts money toward groceries.\n<figure id='\"attachment_160088\"' class='\"wp-caption' alignnone aria-describedby='\"caption-attachment-160088\"'><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' class='\"size-full' wp-image-160088 src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/timelesslife.info%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/08%5C/87d321504eb042e9ae91883352.jpg.jpg%5C%22" sizes='\"auto,' srcset='\"https:\/\/timelesslife.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/87d321504eb042e9ae91883352.jpg.jpg' https: alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"485\"' title='\"\"'><figcaption id='\"caption-attachment-160088\"' class='\"wp-caption-text\"'>For illustrative purpose only\n<p>She hasn\u2019t paid any bills in several months (claiming she\u2019s worried about herself, not that she can\u2019t afford it), but now she refuses to help around the house when I ask for simple tasks like \u201cWhen you\u2019re home, can you let my dogs out once or twice when I\u2019m not,\u201d and \u201cCan you take the trash out when you see it\u2019s full,\u201d nothing too crazy.\n<figure id='\"attachment_160087\"' class='\"wp-caption' alignnone aria-describedby='\"caption-attachment-160087\"'><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' class='\"size-full' wp-image-160087 src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/timelesslife.info%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/08%5C/56d70b51829af3641da5df2ff2.jpg.jpg%5C%22" sizes='\"auto,' srcset='\"https:\/\/timelesslife.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/56d70b51829af3641da5df2ff2.jpg.jpg' https: alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"485\"' data-adbro-processed='\"true\"' title='\"\"'><figcaption id='\"caption-attachment-160087\"' class='\"wp-caption-text\"'>For illustrative purpose only\n<p>Today, I went to check on my dogs with my pet camera and overheard her calling me a number of terrible names while on the phone with someone. It severely wounded my sentiments because, since she was 18, I\u2019ve been the only family member willing to aid her\u2014our mother didn\u2019t want her once she became 18.\n<figure id='\"attachment_160091\"' class='\"wp-caption' alignnone aria-describedby='\"caption-attachment-160091\"'><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' class='\"size-full' wp-image-160091 src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/timelesslife.info%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/08%5C/c4f32c51128fe22a4b64685457.jpg.jpg%5C%22" sizes='\"auto,' srcset='\"https:\/\/timelesslife.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/c4f32c51128fe22a4b64685457.jpg.jpg' https: alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"798\"' title='\"\"'><figcaption id='\"caption-attachment-160091\"' class='\"wp-caption-text\"'>For illustrative purpose only\n<p>I lost my passion and told her I\u2019d worked so hard to ensure she had a roof over her head, even providing her one of our cars so she could drive\u2014to which she answered, \u201cYou\u2019ve never taken care of me; I\u2019ve been the only one taking care of myself.\u201d In the heat of the moment, I urged her to pack her belongings and leave my house because I don\u2019t do anything for her, and then she could figure out life without me. Now I think I might be the bad guy.\n</p><h2><strong>People stood on her side.\n<p><strong>People 1:\u00a0\u201cYour sister is 22 years old, and she needs to grow up sometime. She\u2019s been freeloading off you for four years. She can\u2019t live her life like a perpetual teenager forever.<br>\nIt\u2019s time for her to put whatever life skills she has to the test, or she should learn some quickly, especially if she thinks to disparage someone who has provided for her for four years. Actions have consequences.\u201d\u00a0<em><strong>Peony-Pony \/ Reddit\n<div class='\"ai-viewport-1\"' data-insertion-position='\"prepend\"' data-selector='\".ai-insert-10-60043272\"' data-insertion-no-dbg='\"\"' data-code='\"PGRpdiBjbGFzcz0nY29kZS1ibG9jayBjb2RlLWJsb2NrLTEwJyBzdHlsZT0nbWFyZ2luOiA4cHggMDsgY2xlYXI6IGJvdGg7Jz4KPGNlbnRlcj48c2NyaXB0IGFzeW5jIHR5cGU9InRleHQvamF2YXNjcmlwdCIgc3JjPSJodHRwczovL2Fkcy5wbGF5c3RyZWFtLm1lZGlhL2FwaS9hZHNlcnZlci9zY3JpcHRzP1BTX1RBR0lEPTY1ZDg3YTllMTM1MTNhNmQ5M2RhZTVkYSZQU19QVUJfSUQ9NjVkODVkYmIxMzUxM2E2ZDkzZGFlMTA3Ij48L3NjcmlwdD48L2NlbnRlcj48L2Rpdj4K\"' data-block='\"10\"'>\n<div class='\"code-block' code-block-10>\n\n<p><strong>People 2:\u00a0\u201cA lot of people are suggesting you kick her out, which I agree with. Just make sure to check on your local laws, in some places, if a person has been living someplace for long enough, whether or not they have a lease or are paying, they have tenant rights.<br>\nAnd she sounds like the kind of person that would be happy to turn around and sue you if you kick her out without making sure everything is being done according to the laws in your area.\u201d\u00a0<em><strong>Wraithowl \/ Reddit\n<p><strong>People 3:\u00a0\u201cIf you feel bad about how it happened, then maybe it\u2019s time for a sit-down. A heart-to-heart about how you are frustrated with her lack of action and assistance, that maybe you were harsh in the conversation, but it\u2019s time for her to stand on her own two feet before it ruins your relationship. Point out she moved in at 18 \u2014 she\u2019s had 4 years of not making progress, etc.<br>\nWhat did she think would happen? Stay with you indefinitely? Give her a deadline to move out, take over her own phone bill, etc.\u201d<em><strong> CornerSevere \/ Reddit\n<figure id='\"attachment_160090\"' class='\"wp-caption' alignnone aria-describedby='\"caption-attachment-160090\"'><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' class='\"size-full' wp-image-160090 src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/timelesslife.info%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/08%5C/bd1a505ed4b37fb7c014e02e47.jpg.jpg%5C%22" sizes='\"auto,' srcset='\"https:\/\/timelesslife.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/bd1a505ed4b37fb7c014e02e47.jpg.jpg' https: alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"894\"' title='\"\"'><figcaption id='\"caption-attachment-160090\"' class='\"wp-caption-text\"'>For illustrative purpose only\n<p><strong>People 4:\u00a0\u201cThe fact that she doesn\u2019t seem to see your kindness and help towards her means she\u2019s taking you for granted, secondly she\u2019s not making any progress and completely dependent on you. It\u2019s better for you to kick her out.\u201d\u00a0<em><strong>random8104 \/ Reddit\n<p><strong>People 5:\u00a0\u201cPLEASE stop being a doormat for your entitled sister. Kick her out and don\u2019t look back, however, in a week or so she\u2019ll message you BEGGING to come back and talk about how she\u2019ll change. Don\u2019t believe a word of it.\u201d\u00a0<em><strong>H***WHITEBOI25 \/ Reddit\n<p><strong>People 6:\u00a0\u201cIf you don\u2019t make her grow up and take responsibility for herself\u2026 she never will. She is living with you for free \u2014 eating food for free \u2014 driving a car for free\u2026.and yet she\u2019s acting to friends as if you do nothing for her? She\u2019s 22 now? And demanding you take care of and support her?<br>\nOh no, you need to cut the cord now for your own good \u2014 and for hers.\u201d\u00a0<em><strong>omeomi24 \/ Reddit\n<p>Finally, the decision to urge their sister to leave was motivated by necessity rather than anger. After years of giving without receiving, they recognized they couldn\u2019t keep sacrificing their own well-being for someone who refused to change. Though it was a difficult decision, it signaled the start of a new chapter\u2014one in which they could finally focus on their own needs and live with serenity and self-esteem.\n</p><div class='\"code-block' code-block-2>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For illustrative purpose only The person in today\u2019s story felt it was a no-brainer to support their sister by providing her with a place to stay, financial assistance, and unending emotional support without expecting anything in return. However, everything changed when disappointment entered the picture. Here\u2019s what happened. 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