{"id":78496,"date":"2024-08-28T09:00:19","date_gmt":"2024-08-28T02:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=78496"},"modified":"2024-08-28T09:00:19","modified_gmt":"2024-08-28T02:00:19","slug":"i-refuse-to-let-my-husbands-child-move-in-now-hes-threatening-me-with-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/i-refuse-to-let-my-husbands-child-move-in-now-hes-threatening-me-with-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"I Refuse to Let My Husband\u2019s Child Move In \u2014 Now He\u2019s Threatening Me with Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Jodie and her husband Mike are both happy in\u00a0their second marriage.\n\n
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Jodie, 37, is\u00a0a\u00a0successful woman who has achieved a\u00a0lot in\u00a0her career, rising from a\u00a0nurse to\u00a0the chief doctor of\u00a0cardiology. She enjoys a\u00a0fulfilling job and a\u00a0happy\u00a0marriage\u00a0with her husband, Mike. However, she\u2019s facing a\u00a0significant challenge in\u00a0her new family dynamic that is\u00a0affecting her well-being.\n
The woman has shared her family story and the tough decision she made, which has led to\u00a0ongoing conflicts and misunderstandings with her husband, Mike. She is\u00a0seeking our readers\u2019 opinions on\u00a0this contentious issue and hopes to\u00a0receive insightful advice from those who may have faced similar situations.\n
Jodie opened her letter, saying, \u201cI\u2019ve been married to\u00a0my\u00a0husband Mike for over 3\u00a0years now. This is\u00a0my\u00a0second marriage, and the same is\u00a0for Mike. We\u2019re quite happy in\u00a0our relationship, because it\u2019s mature, stable and transparent. We\u00a0both have been working hard on\u00a0achieving that level of\u00a0mutual understanding and trust that we\u00a0now have in\u00a0our family. Everything seemed good so\u00a0far, but there\u2019s a\u00a0problem that doesn\u2019t allow\u00a0us to\u00a0move forward with our happy marriage. And this problem is\u00a0Mike\u2019s expectations from me\u00a0towards his child, Kylie.\u201d\n\n
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Mike has a\u00a0daughter from a\u00a0previous marriage, and Jodie has consistently been kind to\u00a0her.\n\n
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Jodie disclosed, \u201cMike has a\u00a0child from his previous marriage. His daughter Kylie is\u00a08. Mike was open about the child from the beginning of\u00a0our relationship. He\u00a0has Kylie every two weeks on\u00a0weekends. I\u2019ve always told him that\u2019s fine, I\u00a0have absolutely no\u00a0problem with\u00a0it. I\u00a0believe he\u00a0can spend time with her as\u00a0much as\u00a0he\u00a0wants, and\u00a0I won\u2019t make a\u00a0fuss about\u00a0it. If\u00a0he\u00a0wanted to\u00a0include\u00a0me, I\u00a0would always happily join on\u00a0activities as\u00a0well.\u201d\n
She added, \u201cBut I\u00a0also made it\u00a0clear to\u00a0my\u00a0husband that I\u2019m not Kylie\u2019s parent, that\u2019s him and his\u00a0ex. Of\u00a0course, I\u00a0would look after the girl if\u00a0she was left with\u00a0me, I\u00a0never ignored her. I\u00a0cooked too when she was with\u00a0us, and if\u00a0she wanted to\u00a0talk or\u00a0play with\u00a0me, I\u2019d do\u00a0that too. But I\u00a0refuse to\u00a0parent her. I\u00a0was clear about that. If\u00a0Kylie did something that required grounding, for example, I\u00a0would not be\u00a0the one to\u00a0tell her and ground or\u00a0punish her. That\u2019s a\u00a0parent\u2019s duty, which I\u00a0am not.\u201d\n\n
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The family situation suddenly became tense.\n\n
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Jodie shared, “10\u00a0months ago Mike lost his job and since he\u00a0couldn\u2019t find a\u00a0new one fast enough, he\u00a0got evicted from the apartment he\u00a0had been living in\u00a0before we\u00a0moved in\u00a0together. He\u00a0kept that apartment even after our marriage, and we\u00a0both thought that was fine. I\u00a0have my\u00a0own house, and\u00a0I live in\u00a0it, Mike lived in\u00a0that apartment and worked from there, this was the model of\u00a0marriage we\u00a0had agreed\u00a0on, and we\u00a0did find it\u00a0convenient. But since he\u00a0lost that apartment, I\u00a0told him he\u00a0can move in\u00a0with\u00a0me.\n
\u201cI\u00a0got a\u00a0spare room, which\u00a0I turned into a\u00a0bedroom for Kylie, so\u00a0she has a\u00a0comfortable place to\u00a0stay when she\u2019s with\u00a0us. Things went totally fine the whole time, just last week Mike sat me\u00a0down for a\u00a0serious talk. He\u00a0told me\u00a0that his ex-wife found out about his new living situation and since she\u2019s living in\u00a0an\u00a0apartment, she told Mike it\u00a0would be\u00a0way better if\u00a0Kylie lives full time with\u00a0us and visits her twice a\u00a0month.\u201d\n
Jodie was stunned when she received the news. She confessed, \u201cI was absolutely furious, and I\u2019m sure you can understand why. My husband made the decision without discussing it with me first and then presented it as, \u2019Honey, please be happy! Our little girl will be living with us full time now.\u2019 I laughed, thinking he was joking.\u201d\n\n
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Jodie is\u00a0frustrated by\u00a0her husband\u2019s wish and has openly expressed her concerns.\n\n
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Jodie shared, \u201cUnfortunately, Mike wasn\u2019t joking at\u00a0all. I\u00a0immediately told him\u00a0I wasn\u2019t okay with\u00a0it, not at\u00a0all. Even though\u00a0I don\u2019t work from home, I\u00a0never wanted kids, and that hasn\u2019t changed. Mike had been fine with this arrangement before.\u201d\n
\u201cMy\u00a0husband tried to\u00a0guilt-trip me, saying it\u00a0wasn\u2019t right for Kylie to\u00a0live in\u00a0an\u00a0apartment and that he\u00a0just wanted to\u00a0provide her with a\u00a0better living situation. I\u00a0reminded him that this is\u00a0my\u00a0house, not his, and it\u2019s my\u00a0decision who lives here permanently\u00a0\u2014 especially not behind my\u00a0back. Mike got angry and accused me\u00a0of\u00a0emasculating him and demanded an\u00a0apology. I\u00a0quickly got\u00a0up, packed his suitcase, and told him to\u00a0get his things and move out. He\u00a0said he\u00a0would file for divorce.\u201d\n
Jodie added, \u201cAfter Mike left, his ex\u00a0started blowing up\u00a0my\u00a0phone. She keeps telling me\u00a0what an\u00a0evil person I\u00a0am to\u00a0take stability from Kylie, and called me\u00a0a\u00a0monster. I\u00a0told her that she\u2019s the mother and providing stability is\u00a0her burden, not mine. Though I\u00a0feel like my\u00a0decision was justified, I\u00a0still feel guilty about Kylie in\u00a0this situation. What should I\u00a0do?\u201d\n\n
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Jodie was undoubtedly facing an\u00a0extremely challenging situation. In\u00a0our opinion, it\u00a0was certainly wrong of\u00a0Mike to\u00a0require her to\u00a0become a\u00a0parent to\u00a0someone else\u2019s child, especially when she had clearly stated from the beginning that she wasn\u2019t ready for\u00a0it. Jodie has every right to\u00a0protect her personal boundaries.\n
What would you do\u00a0if\u00a0you were in\u00a0Jodie\u2019s position? Would you be\u00a0willing to\u00a0set aside your reluctance to\u00a0have children to\u00a0save your marriage? Share your thoughts in\u00a0the comments section.\n\n
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And\u00a0here\u2019s a\u00a0story\u00a0about a\u00a0woman whose new boyfriend insisted on\u00a0spending time alone with her son, and a\u00a0hidden camera uncovered a\u00a0shocking truth.\n
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Jodie and her husband Mike are both happy in\u00a0their second marriage. Jodie, 37, is\u00a0a\u00a0successful woman who has achieved a\u00a0lot in\u00a0her career, rising from a\u00a0nurse to\u00a0the chief doctor of\u00a0cardiology. She enjoys a\u00a0fulfilling job and a\u00a0happy\u00a0marriage\u00a0with her husband, Mike. However, she\u2019s facing a\u00a0significant challenge in\u00a0her new family dynamic that is\u00a0affecting her well-being. The woman has shared her …\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":78497,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[642],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-78496","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moral-story"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/78496","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=78496"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/78496\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":78498,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/78496\/revisions\/78498"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/78497"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=78496"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=78496"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=78496"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}