{"id":79258,"date":"2024-09-04T11:20:22","date_gmt":"2024-09-04T04:20:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=79258"},"modified":"2024-09-04T11:20:22","modified_gmt":"2024-09-04T04:20:22","slug":"my-mil-wants-to-take-my-yet-unborn-baby-from-me-because-i-dont-want-to-play-by-her-rules","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/my-mil-wants-to-take-my-yet-unborn-baby-from-me-because-i-dont-want-to-play-by-her-rules\/","title":{"rendered":"My MIL Wants to Take My Yet Unborn Baby From Me, Because I Don\u2019t Want to Play by Her Rules"},"content":{"rendered":"

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The woman\u2019s pregnancy became a\u00a0subject for discussion in\u00a0her family.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0ermias Tarekegn \/ Pexels\n
The woman started her post,\u00a0saying, \u00abSo\u00a0I\u00a0have been with my\u00a0partner for about a\u00a0year and a\u00a0half. We\u2019ve been on\u00a0and off, mostly because he\u00a0lives in\u00a0another state, also because I\u2019ve had trouble gauging his feelings for\u00a0me. We\u00a0weren\u2019t exclusive, but he\u00a0wasn\u2019t seeing anybody else, and\u00a0I wasn\u2019t either.\u00bb\n
Then, a\u00a0miracle happened, and the woman discovered good news. She wrote, \u00abI\u00a0found out that\u00a0I was pregnant a\u00a0couple of\u00a0months ago! I\u00a0did want babies one day but never expressed a\u00a0serious desire for children, and neither had L.\u00a0Normally, I\u2019d be\u00a0against having a\u00a0child at\u00a022\u00a0in\u00a0a\u00a0non-serious relationship, but\u00a0I couldn\u2019t shake the lingering feelings of\u00a0excitement and\u00a0happiness. I\u00a0had no\u00a0plans to\u00a0keep the baby, but when\u00a0I informed\u00a0L, the look of\u00a0genuine pleasure and enthusiasm in\u00a0his face made me\u00a0reconsider.\u00bb\n\n
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The couple reevaluated their relationship after finding out awesome news.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0Susan Flores \/ Pexels\n
The woman said that they both decided they were ready for having a\u00a0child. She\u00a0wrote, \u00abI\u00a0have a\u00a0steady job as\u00a0an\u00a0on-call healthcare professional and am\u00a0able to\u00a0support myself and a\u00a0baby, while he\u00a0shares a\u00a0home with his parents, a\u00a0house inherited by\u00a0the\u00a0family\u00a0that they pay bills\u00a0on.\u00bb\n
The couple\u2019s relationship became more stable. The woman wrote, \u00abHe\u00a0asked me\u00a0if\u00a0I wanted to\u00a0keep the baby and offered to\u00a0really step\u00a0up. His career is\u00a0more hobby at\u00a0the moment but if\u00a0we\u00a0kept the baby, he\u00a0promised to\u00a0secure stable employment.\u00bb\n
The woman claimed that everything in\u00a0her life has only become better with the news about\u00a0pregnancy. She said, \u00abI\u00a0decided to\u00a0keep the baby, and we\u00a0are moving forward and really excited. It\u00a0made me\u00a0realize that\u00a0I was in\u00a0love\u00a0with him and had been holding back. He\u00a0confessed that he\u00a0loved me\u00a0as\u00a0well, and we\u00a0are now exclusive and plan to\u00a0move in\u00a0together.\u00bb\n\n\n\n\n
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A\u00a0huge problem appeared in\u00a0the face of\u00a0the woman\u2019s MIL.\n\n
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\u00a9 SHVETS production \/ Pexels\n
The woman goes on\u00a0with her story,\u00a0saying, \u00abThe problem: My\u00a0support system is\u00a0in\u00a0my\u00a0state, and we\u2019ve agreed to\u00a0move back there. We\u00a0sat his parents down to\u00a0inform them of\u00a0our plans and his mother, who had always been neutral and pleasant fixture immediately took issue with\u00a0it.
\nShe freaked and forbade him from moving away. She claimed that\u00a0I could give birth in\u00a0his state, and they\u2014being his parents\u2014would set\u00a0us up. I\u00a0refused, trying to\u00a0inform her that I\u2019d feel more\u00a0comfortable\u00a0having and raising the baby near my\u00a0family, but she barely let me\u00a0get a\u00a0word\u00a0in. L\u00a0cut her off and we\u00a0left.\u00bb\n\n\n\n\n
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But the OP\u2019s MIL turned into a really sinister person. The woman explained, \u00abSince then, she has been haranguing L, trying to get him to reconsider. Even going as far as threatening to cut off his share in the inheritance (I will not go into detail on their financial situation). This didn\u2019t phase me as I am self-sufficient, but L is very stressed.\u00bb\n\n
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The last straw was when MIL hinted she\u2019d take the baby away.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0SHVETS production \/ Pexels\n
The woman goes on\u00a0with her\u00a0post, revealing, \u00abHe\u00a0tentatively suggested a\u00a050\/50\u00a0situation. I\u00a0pointed out how hard that\u2019d be\u00a0on\u00a0a\u00a0newborn, as\u00a0well as\u00a0stressful for\u00a0me. We\u00a0haven\u2019t quite come to\u00a0an\u00a0agreement, but he\u00a0is\u00a0backing whatever decision I\u00a0make. I\u00a0feel a\u00a0bit bad though, because he\u00a0is\u00a0very close to\u00a0his parents.\u00bb\n
But things didn\u2019t get any better. The OP\u00a0said, \u00abWe\u00a0had another sit down and seeing that\u00a0I wasn\u2019t budging, she let slip that she may claim grandparent rights\u2014as they are in\u00a0possession of\u00a0substantial assets, I\u00a0saw red. The thought that she\u2019d try to\u00a0take\u00a0my (yet unborn) child from me\u00a0made me\u00a0want to\u00a0go\u00a0scorched earth. I\u00a0started screaming, and\u00a0L told her she was out of\u00a0line. We\u00a0left.\u00bb\n
Now the family is\u00a0in\u00a0a\u00a0very hard situation. The woman says, \u00abWe\u00a0have since gotten a\u00a0hotel\u00a0and haven\u2019t been back to\u00a0his home since. I\u00a0have no\u00a0plans to\u00a0have my\u00a0baby in\u00a0this state, but I\u2019m afraid there\u2019s any validity to\u00a0her claim? I\u00a0would like to\u00a0know if\u00a0I\u00a0am being unreasonable in\u00a0how I\u2019m handling this.\u00bb\n\n\n\n\n
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People of\u00a0Reddit were quick to\u00a0react with support and advice.\n\n
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\u00a9 Ann Bugaichuk \/ Pexels\n
People have taken woman\u2019s side in\u00a0the comments and tried to\u00a0comfort her as\u00a0much as\u00a0they could.\n\n\n\n\n
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One user\u00a0wrote, \u00abL\u2019s mom is\u00a0uninformed and just shot herself in\u00a0the foot, badly… this is\u00a0NOT how supposed \u201egrandparents rights\u201c work at\u00a0all. You are at\u00a0zero risk, OP.
\nA\u00a0quick google search will show that those supposed rights are barely enforceable, take very specific circumstances such as\u00a0a\u00a0divorce, violence, and most importantly A\u00a0PRIOR RELATIONSHIP, usually partially custodial\/caregiver type etc. with the child. And no\u00a0sane judge would EVER take a\u00a0child away from healthy parents because of\u00a0a\u00a0psycho grandma.
\nShe can still use her money to\u00a0harass you, which will be\u00a0useless but annoying so\u00a0you may have to\u00a0find a\u00a0good lawyer just in\u00a0case, but unless she meets that kind of\u00a0criteria, which she WON\u2019T as\u00a0long as\u00a0she\u2019s never in\u00a0a\u00a0caregiver role, she\u2019ll just be\u00a0wasting money so\u00a0you\u2019re all good.\u00bb\n
Another user\u00a0added, \u00abI\u00a0was coming here to\u00a0second this. Parents will always be\u00a0the primary parents unless the parents are unfit and the grandparents acted like de\u00a0facto parents. She has no\u00a0ground and will get laughed out of\u00a0court. Signed a\u00a0law school graduate about to\u00a0take bar exam.\u00bb\n
And here\u2019s yet another story about a\u00a0very possessive MIL, who even wanted to\u00a0sleep together with her son in\u00a0his bedroom.\n
Preview photo credit\u00a0Adorable_Computer362 \/ Reddit\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
The woman\u2019s pregnancy became a\u00a0subject for discussion in\u00a0her family. \u00a9\u00a0ermias Tarekegn \/ Pexels The woman started her post,\u00a0saying, \u00abSo\u00a0I\u00a0have been with my\u00a0partner for about a\u00a0year and a\u00a0half. We\u2019ve been on\u00a0and off, mostly because he\u00a0lives in\u00a0another state, also because I\u2019ve had trouble gauging his feelings for\u00a0me. We\u00a0weren\u2019t exclusive, but he\u00a0wasn\u2019t seeing anybody else, and\u00a0I wasn\u2019t either.\u00bb …\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":79259,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[642],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-79258","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moral-story"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79258","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=79258"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79258\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":79261,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79258\/revisions\/79261"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/79259"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=79258"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=79258"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=79258"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}