{"id":80199,"date":"2024-09-11T08:55:09","date_gmt":"2024-09-11T01:55:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=80199"},"modified":"2024-09-11T08:55:09","modified_gmt":"2024-09-11T01:55:09","slug":"my-bils-girlfriend-is-crossing-boundaries-with-my-husband-its-driving-me-crazy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/my-bils-girlfriend-is-crossing-boundaries-with-my-husband-its-driving-me-crazy\/","title":{"rendered":"My BIL\u2019s Girlfriend Is Crossing Boundaries with My Husband \u2014 It\u2019s Driving Me Crazy"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cI\u2019m\u00a0pregnant, 24\u00a0weeks. My\u00a0husband and\u00a0I were visiting his folks in\u00a0their city the past week. It\u00a0was fraught with problems, they are challenging people.\n
My\u00a0BIL (28m) has been dating this woman, S\u00a0(30f) for three years. At\u00a0my\u00a0wedding 1.5 years ago, she spent all her time with me\u00a0telling me\u00a0how lucky I\u00a0am to\u00a0have him. I\u00a0said he\u00a0was certainly wonderful, but then\u00a0I laughed and joked that he\u00a0was the lucky one.\u201d\n\n
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\u201cAnyway, BIL\u00a0and\u00a0my\u00a0husband don\u2019t talk much, so\u00a0we\u00a0haven\u2019t had any conversations with her ever since. When we\u00a0visited last week, she and\u00a0us ended up\u00a0living at\u00a0MIL\u2019s place. It\u2019s a\u00a0small space, so\u00a0things were tight.\n
I\u00a0was on\u00a0alert for any weird behavior. Well, apart from her babying him around, nothing inappropriate happened. We\u00a0returned the day before yesterday.\n
She video-called me\u00a0today. I\u00a0was outside and couldn\u2019t attend\u00a0it. Anyway, I\u00a0find abrupt video calls feel really invasive. When I\u00a0called her back, on\u00a0a\u00a0regular audio call, she cut\u00a0it.\u201d\n\n\n\n\n
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\u201cShe video-called\u00a0me\u00a0again and with the biggest smile on\u00a0her face, yelled \u2019GUESS what I\u2019m wearing!\u2019 I\u00a0stared stupidly at\u00a0the screen and realized she was wearing my\u00a0husband\u2019s T-shirt. This T-shirt means a\u00a0lot to\u00a0us. We\u00a0met over a\u00a0dating app, it\u2019s a\u00a0striking shirt, and he\u00a0was wearing it\u00a0in\u00a0his profile picture.\n
I\u00a0remember sharing this story with the in-laws once, but can\u2019t recollect if\u00a0she was there and heard\u00a0it. Anyways, I\u2019m so\u00a0annoyed. Her boyfriend has a\u00a0million clothes at\u00a0his mom\u2019s place, so\u00a0why couldn\u2019t she just wear one of\u00a0those? I\u00a0find it\u00a0so\u00a0weird that she insisted on\u00a0video-calling me\u00a0whilst wearing my\u00a0husband\u2019s clothes.\u201d\n\n
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That\u2019s weird. Your husband needs to\u00a0have a\u00a0quiet word with his brother about how the shirt-wearing and video call made him uncomfortable and ask him to\u00a0have a\u00a0quiet word with his girlfriend about boundaries.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Ornery_Ad_2019\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
Yes, you\u2019re wrong. You\u2019re giving her too much credit. She\u2019s either trying to\u00a0annoy you or\u00a0thinks you\u2019re closer than you realize. Either way, wasting any time being angry with her is\u00a0futile.
\nJust nonchalantly say thanks for finding the shirt, please mail it\u00a0back and I\u2019ll send you the money. In\u00a0other words, you being upset with her gives her the power she\u2019s looking for. Don\u2019t react anymore. The game will no\u00a0longer be\u00a0fun for her.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0ButterscotchFluffy59\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
She is\u00a0definitely challenging you\u00a0\u2014 she sounds like a\u00a0real piece of\u00a0work. She would go\u00a0for your husband at\u00a0any time, and she has signaled it\u00a0with this action. Do\u00a0whatever you can to\u00a0totally limit contact and never have her stay at\u00a0your place\u00a0\u2014 ever!\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Artistic-Giraffe-866\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
She might not have realized the\u00a0emotional\u00a0significance of\u00a0the t-shirt to\u00a0you and your husband. If\u00a0she wasn\u2019t aware of\u00a0the backstory, she might have just thought it\u00a0was a\u00a0nice piece of\u00a0clothing. It\u00a0could be\u00a0helpful to\u00a0communicate your feelings to\u00a0her directly to\u00a0clear up\u00a0any misunderstandings.\u00a0\u00a9 _annnsophie\u00a0\/ Reddit\n\n\n
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That\u2019s definitely weird behavior from her. It\u2019s understandable why you\u2019re annoyed. She seems to\u00a0be\u00a0trying to\u00a0mark her territory, and it\u2019s disrespectful to\u00a0you and your\u00a0relationship\u00a0with your husband.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Seductive_Virgina\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
I\u00a0would have said\u00a0I can see WHAT you\u2019re wearing the only question is\u00a0WHY.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0dart1126\u00a0\/ Reddit
\nWhy is\u00a0your BIL not stepping\u00a0in? If\u00a0someone\u00a0I dated would so\u00a0clearly drool over my\u00a0friend or\u00a0family\u00a0member,\n
I\u00a0would just end the relationship. He\u00a0is\u00a0better being alone than with someone who disrespects him and his brother and his SIL.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0United_Fig_6519\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
Honestly, reading the title, I\u00a0thought, \u201cBig deal.\u201d She needed a\u00a0t-shirt, and there was one spare. Maybe she thought it\u00a0was her husband\u2019s, or\u00a0maybe she didn\u2019t think about\u00a0it. But saying, \u201cGuess what I\u2019m wearing,\u201d is\u00a0creepy.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Happy-V**er\u00a0\/ Reddit\n\n
Our reader, Taylor, also faced a\u00a0disheartening moment on\u00a0her wedding day when her SIL gave her a\u00a0gift that left her feeling both embarrassed and hurt. Find out more in\u00a0our article.\n
Preview photo credit\u00a0freepik \/ Freepik,\u00a0SimilarSherbert1 \/ Reddit\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
She\u00a0shared\u00a0what happened. \u201cI\u2019m\u00a0pregnant, 24\u00a0weeks. My\u00a0husband and\u00a0I were visiting his folks in\u00a0their city the past week. It\u00a0was fraught with problems, they are challenging people. My\u00a0BIL (28m) has been dating this woman, S\u00a0(30f) for three years. At\u00a0my\u00a0wedding 1.5 years ago, she spent all her time with me\u00a0telling me\u00a0how lucky I\u00a0am to\u00a0have him. I\u00a0said he\u00a0was certainly wonderful, but …\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":80200,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[642],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-80199","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moral-story"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80199","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=80199"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80199\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":80201,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80199\/revisions\/80201"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/80200"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=80199"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=80199"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=80199"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}