However, there\u2019s often another side to such situations. Here\u2019s the story of a man who faced something similar.\n

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\u00a9\u00a0Pavel Danilyuk \/ Pexels\n\n\n\n
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I\u00a0have been\u00a0married\u00a0to\u00a0my\u00a0wife for about two years now, and we\u00a0had our daughter a\u00a0year ago. Now,\u00a0my\u00a0wife was married before, she got married pretty young, but her husband died. I\u00a0knew all of\u00a0this and have been just fine with\u00a0it. Until now.\n
See,\u00a0she\u2019s still pretty close to\u00a0her dead husband\u2019s parents. And they were excited about the birth of\u00a0our child.\u00a0FYI, they only had the one son, no\u00a0other children at\u00a0all.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0Henlynn \/ Pexels\n
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They have been\u00a0coming\u00a0over to\u00a0our place about once a\u00a0week.\u00a0It\u00a0was fine at\u00a0first, but it\u2019s gotten kind of\u00a0suffocating.\n
They have visited\u00a0us more time than either her parent, or\u00a0my\u00a0parents. They have even stayed over our house at\u00a0times. Something I\u00a0wouldn\u2019t even like if\u00a0they were my\u00a0own parents.\n\n
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Another\u00a0thing…they talk about their dead son…a lot.\u00a0Which is\u00a0usually fine, but\u00a0they have made some comments that make me\u00a0uncomfortable. They even said my\u00a0daughter kind of\u00a0looks like him, and his mom even said, \u201cOh, if\u00a0she\u2019s this cute, imagine how cute your kids would have been, if\u00a0only…\u201d\u00a0when talking to\u00a0my\u00a0wife. She was gonna say more, but\u00a0I think she realized what she was about to\u00a0say, I\u00a0was right there.\n
I\u00a0want to\u00a0be\u00a0amicable, and\u00a0I knew that there was gonna be\u00a0some moments like this, but it\u2019s starting to\u00a0make me\u00a0feel uncomfortable.\u00a0Would I\u00a0be wrong if\u00a0I told my\u00a0wife\u2019s dead husband\u2019s parents to\u00a0stop coming to\u00a0see our daughter?\n\n
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When they mention their son and how his kids would have looked, they are crossing a line. You have a bigger problem with your wife, she should be shutting them down. They can be bonus grandparents, only if they respect you as the father of your child. \u00a9 SnooWords4839 \/ Reddit\n
You say in other comments that our wife sees them as family, as extra parents (to her)\/grandparents to your kid. You can\u2019t just unanimously tell them to go away and never come back. It would help if you had a serious conversation with your wife, possibly with a therapist as a mediator. On one hand, they lost their son and your wife lost her husband. She wouldn\u2019t be with you or have your baby if her husband hadn\u2019t died. On the other hand, it\u2019s your baby, and the \u2019extra grandparents\u2019 are using your baby to springboard into \u201cwhat might have been\u201d land, which isn\u2019t healthy. This is a situation where therapy would REALLY help all of you. \u00a9 Condensed_Sarcasm \/ Reddit\n
This situation is uncomfortably close to me. Our only child (adopted) lost her first baby near full term and nearly died herself (still not out of the woods). We have thought about it a lot. Her husband is a super guy; if our daughter doesn\u2019t make it, and he remarried and had a family, we would love to be \u2018spare\u2019 grandparents, if he allowed it. Also, my wife was widowed, I had a great relationship with her former mother-in-law, but she was several states away and much more aware of boundaries. I would give them a bit of grace here, but your wife needs to gently set some boundaries. \u00a9 Oldbean98 \/ Reddit\n\n\n\n
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Divorced exes are one thing. Dude died. She loved him, and he\u00a0does. She loves you too, or\u00a0she wouldn\u2019t be\u00a0with you, but the 4\u00a0of\u00a0them were family. If\u00a0they\u2019re nice to\u00a0you, I\u2019d just roll with your kid having a\u00a0third pair of\u00a0grandparents to\u00a0spoil her. The comments NEED to\u00a0stop, though. You should have a\u00a0frank conversation with the wife, and with the couple.
\n\u201cI\u00a0know you all are still very close, nothing can change that. But I\u00a0am present in\u00a0the wife\u2019s life now, and I\u00a0am the father of\u00a0the daughter. It\u00a0makes me\u00a0feel completely unwanted in\u00a0the picture when you start insinuating that the daughter isn\u2019t mine or\u00a0that my\u00a0existence and contribution in\u00a0this family is\u00a0somehow second best.\u201d\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Armadillo_of_doom\u00a0\/ Reddit
\nIt\u2019s not appropriate. They feel like they have missed out on\u00a0the experience of\u00a0their son having children and getting to\u00a0enjoy grandchildren. I\u2019m sure they love your wife and cling to\u00a0her as\u00a0a\u00a0part of\u00a0what is\u00a0left from their son. The parents of\u00a0the dead husband need therapy, and they need to\u00a0let your wife move on\u00a0and be\u00a0with her family.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0briguygotyou\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
We\u00a0hope the author of\u00a0this story manages to\u00a0set boundaries while maintaining a\u00a0good relationship. Now, here\u2019s a\u00a0story\u00a0where things turned into a\u00a0feud with the mother-in-law.\n
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However, there\u2019s often another side to such situations. Here\u2019s the story of a man who faced something similar. The man\u00a0explained\u00a0the situation. \u00a9\u00a0Pavel Danilyuk \/ Pexels I\u00a0have been\u00a0married\u00a0to\u00a0my\u00a0wife for about two years now, and we\u00a0had our daughter a\u00a0year ago. Now,\u00a0my\u00a0wife was married before, she got married pretty young, but her husband died. I\u00a0knew all of\u00a0this and …\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":81445,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[642],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-81444","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moral-story"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81444","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=81444"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81444\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":81446,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81444\/revisions\/81446"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/81445"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=81444"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=81444"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=81444"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}