{"id":81488,"date":"2024-09-18T17:24:30","date_gmt":"2024-09-18T10:24:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=81488"},"modified":"2024-09-18T17:24:30","modified_gmt":"2024-09-18T10:24:30","slug":"i-was-stunned-to-find-out-why-my-parents-removed-me-from-their-will","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/i-was-stunned-to-find-out-why-my-parents-removed-me-from-their-will\/","title":{"rendered":"I Was Stunned to Find Out Why My Parents Removed Me from Their Will"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Anika began her letter, saying, \u201cHello. I\u00a0never thought I\u2019d find myself in\u00a0such a\u00a0situation, but I\u2019m writing this because I\u2019m feeling lost and conflicted. I\u00a0recently discovered something about my\u00a0family that has been causing me\u00a0sleepless nights, and\u00a0I need to\u00a0share it\u00a0to\u00a0understand if\u00a0I\u2019m overreacting or\u00a0if\u00a0my\u00a0feelings are justified.\n
I\u00a0come from a\u00a0very conservative family. My\u00a0parents raised me\u00a0and my\u00a0younger brother in\u00a0a\u00a0household where traditional values were the foundation of\u00a0everything. Growing up, I\u00a0was always taught that a\u00a0girl\u2019s role is\u00a0to\u00a0support her family, be\u00a0a\u00a0good wife, and take care of\u00a0the household. I\u00a0accepted this because it\u00a0was all I\u00a0knew, and when\u00a0I married my\u00a0husband, Rohan, I\u00a0stepped into that role without question.
\nMy\u00a0parents were proud of\u00a0me\u00a0for finding a\u00a0good man, and they were happy that\u00a0I had a\u00a0stable home with him. My\u00a0father would often say, \u2019Rohan will take care of\u00a0you now; you don\u2019t have to\u00a0worry about anything.\u2019 And I\u00a0believed\u00a0it.\u201d\n\n
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She always believed that she and her brother would share equal inheritance from their parents.\n\n
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\u201cLife with Rohan has been good, but like everyone else, we\u00a0have our own financial struggles. We\u00a0both work hard to\u00a0maintain our household, and while we\u2019re not wealthy, we\u2019ve managed to\u00a0get by\u00a0without needing much help from anyone. I\u00a0never expected any kind of\u00a0inheritance from my\u00a0parents, as\u00a0I was under the impression that whatever they had would be\u00a0shared equally between my\u00a0brother and\u00a0me. But that belief was shattered recently when\u00a0I accidentally came across their will.\u201d\n
Anika continued, \u201cI\u00a0was visiting my\u00a0parents when\u00a0I found the will in\u00a0a\u00a0drawer. I\u00a0wasn\u2019t snooping; I\u00a0was simply looking for some old documents my\u00a0mother asked me\u00a0to\u00a0retrieve. When I\u00a0saw the will, I\u00a0was curious and thought nothing of\u00a0reading\u00a0it. After all, they are my\u00a0parents, and\u00a0I had always assumed that everything they had would be\u00a0divided fairly between my\u00a0brother and\u00a0me. But when\u00a0I read the document, my\u00a0heart sank.\u201d\n\n
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Anika\u2019s parents had different plans about\u00a0it.\n\n
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\u201cMy\u00a0parents had decided to\u00a0leave everything\u2014our family home, the land, the savings, and even some precious heirlooms\u2014to my\u00a0brother. Not a\u00a0single thing was mentioned to\u00a0me. I\u00a0first thought there must be\u00a0a\u00a0mistake, but they had written that my\u00a0brother, being the son, would inherit everything because \u2019he will need to\u00a0support his future family and provide for them.\u2019
\nIt\u00a0went on\u00a0to\u00a0say that since I\u2019m married and my\u00a0husband provides for\u00a0me, I\u00a0don\u2019t need any inheritance. They believed that my\u00a0brother, as\u00a0a\u00a0man, deserved it\u00a0all because he\u00a0would one day have a\u00a0family to\u00a0care for. The will also mentioned that as\u00a0a\u00a0daughter, my\u00a0duty was to\u00a0my\u00a0husband\u2019s family now, not my\u00a0own.\u201d\n
Anika explained, \u201cI\u00a0was in\u00a0shock. My\u00a0parents have always been loving and supportive, but this made me\u00a0feel like\u00a0I was less important, simply because I\u2019m a\u00a0woman. They didn\u2019t even discuss this with\u00a0me, and it\u00a0hurt more than\u00a0I can express. When I\u00a0confronted them about\u00a0it, they didn\u2019t understand why\u00a0I was upset.
\nMy\u00a0mother said, \u2019But you\u2019re married, Anika. You have Rohan to\u00a0take care of\u00a0you. Your brother needs this to\u00a0start his own life when he\u00a0marries. It\u2019s how things are done in\u00a0our culture.\u2019 My\u00a0father added, \u2019You should be\u00a0happy for your brother; he\u00a0needs this more than you do.\u2019\u201d\n\n
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Anika thinks about whether she should fight or\u00a0leave\u00a0it.\n\n
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\u201cI\u2019m struggling with this,\u201d Anika wrote, \u201cbecause it\u00a0feels like my\u00a0worth to\u00a0my\u00a0parents is\u00a0tied to\u00a0the fact that I\u2019m a\u00a0woman and nothing more. They see me\u00a0as\u00a0someone who no\u00a0longer belongs to\u00a0their family, just because I\u2019m married. It\u2019s as\u00a0if\u00a0all the years\u00a0I spent being their daughter, their support, and their pride, mean nothing now that\u00a0I have a\u00a0husband. I\u00a0can\u2019t help but feel betrayed and heartbroken. I\u2019ve always done everything they asked of\u00a0me, but now\u00a0I wonder if\u00a0they ever saw me\u00a0as\u00a0an\u00a0equal to\u00a0my\u00a0brother.\u201d\n
\u201cNow, I\u2019m torn between wanting to\u00a0fight for what\u00a0I believe is\u00a0rightfully mine and simply accepting their decision, as\u00a0they\u2019ve clearly made up\u00a0their minds. I\u00a0don\u2019t want to\u00a0create a\u00a0rift in\u00a0my\u00a0family, but\u00a0I also can\u2019t ignore the pain this has caused\u00a0me. What should I\u00a0do?\u201d\n\n
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Here\u2019s what our readers advise Anika.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0meijii \/ Pexels\n
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I\u2019m out. They insulted her. She\u2019s just as\u00a0deserving as\u00a0her brother. Favoritism is\u00a0a\u00a0very hurtful thing, and that\u2019s what happening here under the guise of\u00a0hypocrisy.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Fannelle Collette\u00a0\/ Facebook\n
Well, since he\u00a0will be\u00a0the beneficiary of\u00a0their estate, he\u00a0can take better care of\u00a0your parents on\u00a0his own. Whatever he\u00a0spends out of\u00a0pocket, he\u00a0can replace it\u00a0with whatever he\u00a0receives from their estate. You can continue to\u00a0be\u00a0a\u00a0loving, caring daughter to\u00a0them. You just can\u2019t invest in\u00a0taking care of\u00a0them as\u00a0they age. Your brother will be\u00a0in\u00a0a\u00a0financial position to\u00a0do\u00a0that on\u00a0his own.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Silvia Wilm\u00a0\/ Facebook
\nNo\u00a0one is\u00a0entitled to\u00a0someone else\u2019s assets. The parents chose, and it\u2019s their right, although it\u2019s a\u00a0horrible thing for them to\u00a0do. Not sure what she meant by\u00a0fighting for her share, because legally, she has no\u00a0share.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Roach-Orr AD\u00a0\/ Facebook\n
Cut your responsibility towards them. Love them from afar. You cannot change how they feel. They will not change their will. Anything you say will fall on\u00a0deaf ears. Let your brother and his future spouse have the burden of\u00a0caring for them in\u00a0their old age. After all, that\u2019s what is\u00a0expected of\u00a0a\u00a0daughter-in-law. They will reap what they sow, and their bounty will be\u00a0bitter.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Mian Buban\u00a0\/ Facebook\n
Maybe she should demand a\u00a0dowry, since they are so\u00a0old-fashioned. Then she can spend it\u00a0on\u00a0what she wants and if\u00a0she wants a\u00a0house, she\u2019ll have a\u00a0down payment and if\u00a0she wants an\u00a0education she can pay for\u00a0it, and if\u00a0she wants a\u00a0husband she can pick one who\u2019s not so\u00a0traditional.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Roberta Buchanan\u00a0\/ Facebook\n\n
How would you handle such a\u00a0situation?\n
Here\u2019s another\u00a0story\u00a0where a\u00a0parents\u2019 will drove a\u00a0wedge between siblings.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Anika sent her message to\u00a0us. \u00a9\u00a0Mr Shadow \/ Pexels Anika began her letter, saying, \u201cHello. I\u00a0never thought I\u2019d find myself in\u00a0such a\u00a0situation, but I\u2019m writing this because I\u2019m feeling lost and conflicted. I\u00a0recently discovered something about my\u00a0family that has been causing me\u00a0sleepless nights, and\u00a0I need to\u00a0share it\u00a0to\u00a0understand if\u00a0I\u2019m overreacting or\u00a0if\u00a0my\u00a0feelings are justified. I\u00a0come from a\u00a0very …\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":81489,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[642],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-81488","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moral-story"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81488","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=81488"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81488\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":81490,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81488\/revisions\/81490"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/81489"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=81488"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=81488"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=81488"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}