{"id":81520,"date":"2024-09-19T08:31:45","date_gmt":"2024-09-19T01:31:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=81520"},"modified":"2024-09-19T08:31:45","modified_gmt":"2024-09-19T01:31:45","slug":"i-banned-my-mil-from-the-delivery-room-you-wont-believe-her-reaction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/i-banned-my-mil-from-the-delivery-room-you-wont-believe-her-reaction\/","title":{"rendered":"I Banned My MIL From the Delivery Room \u2014 You Won\u2019t Believe Her Reaction"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<h2>We received an anonymous letter in our editorial with a request for advice.\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<p>\u201cMy\u00a0MIL works at\u00a0the\u00a0hospital. When I\u00a0announced my\u00a0pregnancy,\u00a0she was thrilled at\u00a0the idea of\u00a0delivering my\u00a0baby and being THE FIRST TO\u00a0HOLD\u00a0IT to\u00a0build a\u00a0special connection\u00a0with her first grandchild.\u201d\n</p><p>\u201cLike any mom, I\u00a0wanted to\u00a0be\u00a0the first to\u00a0hold my\u00a0baby, so\u00a0<strong>I\u00a0BANNED her in\u00a0the delivery room. This caused a\u00a0huge scandal in\u00a0our family. Everyone thought\u00a0I was being unreasonable, including my\u00a0husband. He\u00a0believed it\u00a0was safer for her to\u00a0deliver the baby due to\u00a0her experience and saw no\u00a0issue with her holding the baby first. \u2019<strong>It\u2019s her first grandchild; she has every right,\u2019 he\u00a0said. But I\u00a0carried this baby for nine months, enduring all the pain and stress. I\u00a0believed\u00a0I had every right to\u00a0be\u00a0the first to\u00a0hold my\u00a0child.\u201d\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<h2>The conflict seemed resolved until the day of\u00a0delivery came.\n\n<div class='\"fe475c3f28885ceec1f1\"' tabindex='\"-1\"'>\n<div data-test-id='\"article-image-5\"'><picture class='\"b10992b7e7307cb7c32f\"'><source srcset='\"https:\/\/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li\/resize\/728x\/webp\/297\/997\/beccb15dc99db0dabb12bcde84.jpg.webp' type='\"image\/webp\"'></source><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' id='\"image28008155\"' class='\"e33ce0f82f0e7404cc63\"' title='\"\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li%5C/resize%5C/728x%5C/jpg%5C/297%5C/997%5C/beccb15dc99db0dabb12bcde84.jpg%5C%22" alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"710\"'>\n<div class='\"bf0a2e8fd2dd44f1e1c9\"'>\n<div>\n\n\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<p>\u201cWhen I\u00a0was 10\u00a0days overdue, my\u00a0water finally broke. After 24\u00a0hours of\u00a0labor without progress, my\u00a0doctor recommended a\u00a0C-section, and we\u00a0agreed. Since it\u00a0wasn\u2019t an\u00a0emergency, my\u00a0husband called our parents, who came to\u00a0the hospital an\u00a0hour later.\u201d\n</p><p>\u201cMy\u00a0MIL burst\u00a0in, saying, \u2019<strong>You can\u2019t resist now; I\u2019ll do\u00a0whatever it\u00a0takes to\u00a0help you!\u2019 I\u00a0glared at\u00a0her, feeling a\u00a0surge of\u00a0frustration and exhaustion. The last thing\u00a0I needed was her hovering over me\u00a0in\u00a0an\u00a0already stressful situation. The nurses exchanged uncomfortable glances, unsure of\u00a0what to\u00a0do.\u201d\n<p>\u201cStraining with pain, I\u00a0said, \u2019I appreciate your enthusiasm, but\u00a0I need space right now. Please respect my\u00a0wishes.\u2019 My\u00a0MIL stood there in\u00a0shock. Her usual confidence wavered, a\u00a0mix of\u00a0hurt and bewilderment crossing her face. \u2019I apologize for our past fights. I\u00a0just want to\u00a0help,\u2019 she said weakly, her voice cracking.\u201d\n</p><p>\u201cI\u00a0replied firmly, \u2019I\u00a0know. But this is\u00a0something\u00a0I need to\u00a0do\u00a0on\u00a0my\u00a0terms.\u2019 At\u00a0that point,\u00a0<strong>I\u00a0regretted being so\u00a0angry with her, as\u00a0she seemed to\u00a0genuinely want to\u00a0help.\u201d\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<h2>Any feelings of\u00a0pity for her MIL quickly dissipated once the woman discovered what she had done.\n\n<div class='\"fe475c3f28885ceec1f1\"' tabindex='\"-1\"'>\n<div data-test-id='\"article-image-9\"'><picture class='\"b10992b7e7307cb7c32f\"'><source srcset='\"https:\/\/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li\/resize\/728x\/webp\/0f4\/aac\/d9f84c5b7ca39d7e4a831dead3.jpg.webp' type='\"image\/webp\"'></source><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' id='\"image28008156\"' class='\"e33ce0f82f0e7404cc63\"' title='\"\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li%5C/resize%5C/728x%5C/jpg%5C/0f4%5C/aac%5C/d9f84c5b7ca39d7e4a831dead3.jpg%5C%22" alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"728\"'>\n\n<div class='\"a7a009a2bc69238836f2\"'>\n<aside class='\"ca17a89d1f9c34c777a4\"' data-test-id='\"advert-d-inread-r-2\"' data-adunit-type='\"d-inread-r-2\"' data-adunit-started='\"true\"'>\n<div class='\"f5404ebf8cd5437b33d6\"'>\n\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<p>\u201cWhat I\u00a0didn\u2019t expect about the C-section was how quickly they get the baby out and how long it\u00a0takes to\u00a0stitch you back\u00a0up. They showed me\u00a0my\u00a0baby, but my\u00a0arms were strapped down with IVs, so\u00a0I couldn\u2019t hold her. She was taken to\u00a0the nursery, and my\u00a0husband went with her. It\u00a0felt like ages, but probably only 30\u00a0minutes later, I\u00a0was moved to\u00a0the recovery room.\u201d\n</p><p>\u201cThere, my\u00a0baby girl was lying in\u00a0her crib. Moved by\u00a0my\u00a0MIL\u2019s act, I\u00a0encouraged her to\u00a0hold her granddaughter first.\u201d\n</p><p>\u201c<strong>When I\u00a0asked if\u00a0she wanted to\u00a0hold her first grandchild, she laughed and said, \u2019Oh, I\u00a0already did.\u2019\u201d\n<p>\u201cAt\u00a0that moment, all my\u00a0kindness vanished. I\u00a0can\u2019t describe how angry I\u00a0was. I\u00a0should probably add that no\u00a0one else held the baby because they knew how important it\u00a0was for me\u00a0to\u00a0do\u00a0it\u00a0first. I\u00a0asked everyone to\u00a0leave the room and didn\u2019t want to\u00a0see anyone for the next few hours.\u201d\n</p><p>\u201c<strong>Now, my\u00a0husband and MIL think I\u2019m being unfair. Am\u00a0I\u00a0overreacting? I\u00a0would appreciate your advice.\u201d\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<h2>We\u00a0thank you for sharing your revelation and have prepared a\u00a0few tips.\n\n<div class='\"fe475c3f28885ceec1f1\"' tabindex='\"-1\"'>\n<div data-test-id='\"article-image-13\"'><picture class='\"b10992b7e7307cb7c32f\"'><source srcset='\"https:\/\/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li\/resize\/728x\/webp\/f00\/971\/3e0cea5abebe86fdd7be2294ce.jpg.webp' type='\"image\/webp\"'></source><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' id='\"image28008157\"' class='\"e33ce0f82f0e7404cc63\"' title='\"\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li%5C/resize%5C/728x%5C/jpg%5C/f00%5C/971%5C/3e0cea5abebe86fdd7be2294ce.jpg%5C%22" alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"485\"'>\n<div class='\"bf0a2e8fd2dd44f1e1c9\"'>\n<div class='\"e4d41328b3b5ab1c8df3' ea3c3ab3bb9deab3fd31>\n<p>\u00a9\u00a0Alex Green \/ Pexels\n</p><p>Navigating family dynamics around childbirth can be\u00a0incredibly challenging, especially when\u00a0emotions\u00a0and expectations clash. Here\u2019s some advice to\u00a0help you address the situation and find a\u00a0way forward:\n\n\n\n\n</p><div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Acknowledge Your Feelings.\u00a0Your desire to\u00a0be\u00a0the first to\u00a0hold your baby is\u00a0completely natural. After carrying your child for nine months, it\u2019s understandable to\u00a0want to\u00a0experience that first moment. Feeling hurt and angry when this didn\u2019t happen is\u00a0valid, and it\u2019s okay to\u00a0acknowledge those emotions.\n<li><strong>Communicate\u00a0Openly with Your Husband.\u00a0Your husband\u2019s alignment with his mother over your wishes has created tension. It\u2019s crucial to\u00a0have an\u00a0open and honest conversation with him about how you felt during and after the birth. Express how important it\u00a0was for you to\u00a0have that first moment with your baby and how his support is\u00a0vital to\u00a0you.\n<li><strong>Set Boundaries with\u00a0Empathy.\u00a0Setting boundaries with your mother-in-law is\u00a0essential. Share with her how important it\u00a0is\u00a0for you to\u00a0have your own experiences and moments as\u00a0a\u00a0new mother. Use \u201cI\u201d statements to\u00a0express your feelings, such as\u00a0\u201cI\u00a0felt disappointed because\u00a0I wanted to\u00a0be\u00a0the first to\u00a0hold my\u00a0baby.\u201d This approach can help her understand your perspective without feeling attacked.\n\n\n<div class='\"c9651ae372cb2ea108a5' a7a009a2bc69238836f2 dbd3833dbc73d3acd29b>\n<aside class='\"ca17a89d1f9c34c777a4\"' data-test-id='\"advert-d-inread-3\"' data-adunit-type='\"d-inread-3\"' data-adunit-started='\"true\"' data-state='\"rendered\"'>\n<div class='\"f5404ebf8cd5437b33d6\"'>\n\n\n<div class='\"fe475c3f28885ceec1f1\"' tabindex='\"-1\"'>\n<div data-test-id='\"article-image-16\"'><picture class='\"b10992b7e7307cb7c32f\"'><source srcset='\"https:\/\/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li\/resize\/728x\/webp\/89d\/50d\/e60ac85fc89f51299d215c6371.jpg.webp' type='\"image\/webp\"'></source><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' id='\"image28008158\"' class='\"e33ce0f82f0e7404cc63\"' title='\"\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/wl-brightside.cf.tsp.li%5C/resize%5C/728x%5C/jpg%5C/89d%5C/50d%5C/e60ac85fc89f51299d215c6371.jpg%5C%22" alt='\"\"' width='\"728\"' height='\"485\"'>\n<div class='\"bf0a2e8fd2dd44f1e1c9\"'>\n<div>\u00a9\u00a0Pixabay \/ Pexels\n<div>\n<div class='\"d4cd5e4d1c37eb7b6e0b' d6e6c99797533fcec215 data-test-id='\"article-image-16\"'>\n\n\n<section class='\"d17df1a8ad4a418bd28a' be4f2b8f955c4fc8bea6 data-id='\"28008158\"'>\n<div class='\"e98cf7c6464e2e984a41\"'>\n<div class='\"aed62af27ad9dd3e8c03' ed99307b75b012ec4c7a e2efe1fd378420e9f526>\n<div class='\"d2e9be9853b74c32d4d7\"' data-test-id='\"new-comment-editor\"'>\n<div class='\"d10f0e848414f3f0b260\"'>\n<form class='\"bc5d2f670964baf0d1df\"' data-test-id='\"comment-editor-form\"'>\n<div class='\"ce9be2020e1a2a183cb6\"' data-test-id='\"actions-block\"'>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Rebuild Trust and Connection.\u00a0After the incident, rebuilding trust and connection with your mother-in-law is\u00a0important for family harmony. Consider small gestures to\u00a0show you appreciate her role in\u00a0your child\u2019s life, even if\u00a0boundaries need to\u00a0be\u00a0maintained. This can help in\u00a0healing and creating a\u00a0balanced relationship. Discuss and agree on\u00a0expectations for future interactions to\u00a0prevent similar conflicts. Establish clear guidelines about how you want to\u00a0handle your parenting decisions and important moments moving forward.\n<li><strong>Get Support if\u00a0Needed.\u00a0Family counselors or\u00a0therapists can provide a\u00a0neutral ground for addressing ongoing conflicts and improving communication within the family. They can offer strategies to\u00a0navigate complex emotions and relationships.\n<li><strong>Prioritize Your Well-Being.\u00a0Remember to\u00a0take care of\u00a0your emotional and physical well-being as\u00a0you adjust to\u00a0motherhood. Surround yourself with supportive people who respect your wishes and provide a\u00a0positive environment for you and your baby.\n\n\n<div class='\"e599d42b92530cddc130' d678c9ac111a6390ff29>\n<p>\u201cI\u00a0never force my\u00a0son to\u00a0say SORRY and THANK YOU\u00a0\u2014 it\u00a0could psychologically traumatize him,\u201d another reader wrote to\u00a0Bright Side to\u00a0share her unique parenting style and to\u00a0seek advice from other parents. She often faces criticism about her methods of\u00a0upbringing and wants to\u00a0know if\u00a0other parents have had similar experiences.\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"</p><p>We received an anonymous letter in our editorial with a request for advice. \u201cMy\u00a0MIL works at\u00a0the\u00a0hospital. When I\u00a0announced my\u00a0pregnancy,\u00a0she was thrilled at\u00a0the idea of\u00a0delivering my\u00a0baby and being THE FIRST TO\u00a0HOLD\u00a0IT to\u00a0build a\u00a0special connection\u00a0with her first grandchild.\u201d \u201cLike any mom, I\u00a0wanted to\u00a0be\u00a0the first to\u00a0hold my\u00a0baby, so\u00a0I\u00a0BANNED her in\u00a0the delivery room. This caused a\u00a0huge scandal in\u00a0our family. &hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":81525,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[642],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-81520","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moral-story"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81520","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=81520"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81520\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":81526,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81520\/revisions\/81526"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/81525"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=81520"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=81520"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=81520"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}</p></div></strong></li></strong></li></strong></li></ul></div></div></form></div></div></div></div></section></div></div></div></div></picture></div></div></div></aside></div></strong></li></strong></li></strong></li></ul></div></div></div></picture></div></div></h2></div></strong></p></strong></p></div></div></aside></div></picture></div></div></h2></div></strong></p></strong></p></div></div></div></picture></div></div></h2></div></strong></strong></p></div></h2></div>