{"id":82200,"date":"2024-09-24T13:51:10","date_gmt":"2024-09-24T06:51:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=82200"},"modified":"2024-09-24T13:54:22","modified_gmt":"2024-09-24T06:54:22","slug":"i-kicked-out-my-mil-because-she-gave-away-my-late-moms-necklacei-kicked-out-my-mil-because-she-gave-away-my-late-moms-necklace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/i-kicked-out-my-mil-because-she-gave-away-my-late-moms-necklacei-kicked-out-my-mil-because-she-gave-away-my-late-moms-necklace\/","title":{"rendered":"I Kicked Out My MIL Because She Gave Away My Late Mom\u2019s NecklaceI Kicked Out My MIL Because She Gave Away My Late Mom\u2019s Necklace"},"content":{"rendered":"

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A\u00a0woman\u00a0shared\u00a0her dilemma on\u00a0the internet.\n
I\u00a0(30F) am\u00a0known in\u00a0my\u00a0family\u00a0for my\u00a0patience and generosity. I\u2019ve always gone out of\u00a0my\u00a0way to\u00a0help others, and\u00a0I take pride in\u00a0being a\u00a0good person. My\u00a0husband (32M) and\u00a0I have a\u00a0beautiful relationship built on\u00a0mutual\u00a0respect\u00a0and understanding.\n
My\u00a0late mother left me\u00a0a\u00a0precious heirloom, a\u00a0vintage necklace that has been in\u00a0our family for generations. It\u2019s not just valuable, but it\u00a0holds immense sentimental value to\u00a0me. I\u2019ve always kept it\u00a0safe and only wore it\u00a0on\u00a0special occasions, cherishing the memories it\u00a0holds.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0kroshka_nastya \/ Freepik\n
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Enter my\u00a0MIL (57F), who has a\u00a0history of\u00a0overstepping boundaries. Despite our differences, when she lost her apartment, my\u00a0husband and\u00a0I opened our home to\u00a0her, asking for nothing in\u00a0return but basic respect for our belongings.\n
One day, I came home to find my MIL hosting a tea party with her friends, and to my horror, one of her friends was wearing my mother\u2019s necklace. When I confronted her, my MIL nonchalantly said she gave it away because she thought it was \u2018just old jewelry\u2019 and that her friend admired it.\n\n
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\u00a9 freepik \/ Freepik\n
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I\u00a0was heartbroken and felt utterly betrayed. My\u00a0husband was equally appalled and supported my\u00a0decision to\u00a0ask her to\u00a0leave. Now, the rest of\u00a0the family is\u00a0painting me\u00a0as\u00a0the villain, saying I\u2019m overreacting and should\u00a0forgive\u00a0her because \u2018family is\u00a0family.\u2019\n
I\u00a0got the\u00a0necklace\u00a0back after explaining the situation to\u00a0MIL\u2019s friend, but my\u00a0MIL thinks\u00a0I made her look extremely foolish.\n\n
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Redditors took the woman\u2019s side.\n\n
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\u00abGlad you got it back. The only person who made your MIL look like a fool as well as a thief was herself. May I suggest you get an exterior door knob for your bedroom door that requires an actual key? The same for any other room you don\u2019t want anyone roaming through. Saves a lot of angst, as some people will paw through papers.\u00bb 3Heathens_Mom \/ Reddit\n
\u00abAnd how did MIL\u2019s friend know about the necklace? Did your MIL take her on a tour of your bedroom, open your jewelry box, and let her root around in your things? Appalling overstepping and invasion of privacy! She should be shamed by the family, not defended and excused. Glad you got the necklace back.\u00bb HesterFabian \/ Reddit\n
\u00abShe has obviously been going through your personal possessions in\u00a0order to\u00a0find the necklace, and there\u2019s no\u00a0telling what other things she has claimed for herself, or\u00a0given to\u00a0others.\u00bb\u00a0Forward-Wear7913\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
\u00abYour MIL was completely out of line by doing this. No one has the right to give away something that isn\u2019t theirs without the express permission of the owner or a person with authority over the item in question. Your MIL should be utterly ashamed of her behavior, not the other way around.\u00bb Betelgeuse8188 \/ Reddit\n\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0stefamerpik \/ Freepik\n
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\u00abShe gave away something that was not hers. Your home was opened to\u00a0her on\u00a0the condition that she respect your belongings. She broke that condition on\u00a0many, many levels, so\u00a0you were right to\u00a0ask her to\u00a0leave.
\nThe rest of\u00a0the family is\u00a0only hearing her side of\u00a0the story, in\u00a0which, of\u00a0course, she is\u00a0painting you as\u00a0the villain. She\u2019s still perfectly capable of\u00a0learning boundaries, and that actions have consequences. If\u00a0your family members are so\u00a0concerned, then they should be\u00a0hosting her.
\nQuite apart from anything else, I would not expect a person to forgive another person for something that has happened unless a) that person apologizes (genuinely) for the action AND b) takes action to rectify the issue as much as possible. If\u00a0you \u2018forgive\u2019 in\u00a0any other situation, all you are really doing is\u00a0condoning the action, and stating that your boundaries\u00a0\/ conditions actually have no\u00a0meaning.\u00bb\u00a0Independent_Rain4838\u00a0\/ Reddit\n\n\n
\u00a0\u00abI can\u2019t imagine someone being kind enough to let me stay with them, inviting friends over, and then responding by giving away the host\u2019s possessions… Let alone jewelry. That\u2019s someone who wouldn\u2019t be allowed back into my home unless I was there to physically watch them. And even then… Maybe not.\u00bb Chaos-n-Dissonance \/ Reddit\n\n
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\u00abIf\u00a0your late mother\u2019s jewelry is\u00a0just \u2018some random jewelry,\u2019 then your MIL\u00a0is just some random old lady that you don\u2019t owe any respect and certainly not any forgiveness. What she did was malicious and so\u00a0mean spirited\u00a0I can\u2019t quite wrap my\u00a0head around\u00a0it, I\u2019d never want to\u00a0see her face again.
\nIgnore the rest of\u00a0the family, they just don\u2019t want to\u00a0take her in\u00a0and have their heirlooms disappear next. As\u00a0long as\u00a0you and your husband are on\u00a0the same page (which I\u00a0am so\u00a0happy to\u00a0hear you are), then you can just ignore the people telling you to\u00a0forgive. They wouldn\u2019t forgive her either.\u00bb\u00a0canyonemoon\u00a0\/ Reddit\n\n\n
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Problems with mothers-in-law are not uncommon. We\u00a0recently wrote about a\u00a0MIL who accused her DIL of\u00a0cheating because of\u00a0her baby\u2019s unusual eye color. But when the young mom did a\u00a0DNA test\u00a0to\u00a0prove her in-law wrong, she found out something she never expected.\n
Preview photo credit\u00a0freepik \/ Freepik,\u00a0Cold_Device5620 \/ Reddit\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
A\u00a0woman\u00a0shared\u00a0her dilemma on\u00a0the internet. I\u00a0(30F) am\u00a0known in\u00a0my\u00a0family\u00a0for my\u00a0patience and generosity. I\u2019ve always gone out of\u00a0my\u00a0way to\u00a0help others, and\u00a0I take pride in\u00a0being a\u00a0good person. My\u00a0husband (32M) and\u00a0I have a\u00a0beautiful relationship built on\u00a0mutual\u00a0respect\u00a0and understanding. My\u00a0late mother left me\u00a0a\u00a0precious heirloom, a\u00a0vintage necklace that has been in\u00a0our family for generations. It\u2019s not just valuable, but it\u00a0holds immense sentimental value …\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":82204,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[657],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82200","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-and-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82200","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=82200"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82200\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":82205,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82200\/revisions\/82205"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/82204"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=82200"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=82200"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=82200"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}