{"id":82824,"date":"2024-09-30T09:00:12","date_gmt":"2024-09-30T02:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=82824"},"modified":"2024-09-30T09:00:12","modified_gmt":"2024-09-30T02:00:12","slug":"i-want-to-kick-my-mil-out-of-our-home-but-she-has-no-plans-to-leave","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/i-want-to-kick-my-mil-out-of-our-home-but-she-has-no-plans-to-leave\/","title":{"rendered":"I Want to Kick My MIL Out of Our Home, but She Has No Plans to Leave"},"content":{"rendered":"
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How My\u00a0MIL Ended Up\u00a0Living With\u00a0Us.\n\n
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34-year-old Megan shares the uncomfortable position she\u2019s found herself in\u00a0with her mother-in-law and husband. She wrote\u00a0us a\u00a0letter explaining the situation, \u201cHi! I\u00a0have seen similar stories on\u00a0your page, so\u00a0I\u2019m sharing mine too. I\u00a0want to\u00a0get this off my\u00a0chest. And I\u00a0hope someone, who is\u00a0reading this, will be\u00a0able to\u00a0suggest what\u00a0I should do\u00a0next.\u201d\n

She explains how her MIL ended up\u00a0living with her, \u201cMy\u00a0husband, John (36), and\u00a0I got our own place together years before we\u00a0got married. His family was fine with\u00a0it, and so\u00a0was mine. But then, John\u2019s parents separated, and his mom came to\u00a0live with\u00a0us.\u201d\n\n

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Why I\u00a0Think It\u2019s Time for Her to\u00a0Move Out.\n\n
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Megan reveals why she\u2019s suddenly not okay with her mother-in-law living in\u00a0the house, \u201cMy\u00a0MIL has been living with\u00a0us for 10\u00a0years now. We\u2019ve had our ups and downs, but I\u2019ve managed without saying anything so\u00a0far. I\u2019m currently pregnant with our third, and space is\u00a0becoming an\u00a0issue. It\u2019s time for my\u00a0MIL to\u00a0move out.\n

We\u00a0have a\u00a05-bedroom house. Our eldest daughter has a\u00a0room, our younger one has a\u00a0room, one is\u00a0taken by\u00a0my\u00a0MIL, one is\u00a0ours, and I\u2019ve converted one room into an\u00a0office space for myself. There\u2019s just no\u00a0room for the new baby.\u201d\n\n

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How This Living Situation Affects Our Marriage.\n\n
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Successful\u00a0marriages\u00a0work on\u00a0love and sacrifices, but Megan feels she\u2019s made enough already, \u201cI\u2019ve been trying to\u00a0talk to\u00a0my\u00a0husband about this for months. He\u00a0changes the topic or\u00a0just dismisses\u00a0it. Last night, I\u00a0told him seriously that his mother needed to\u00a0go.\u201d\n

\u201cAll this time she has lived with\u00a0us, she has never paid for any bills or\u00a0utilities. Never even bought\u00a0us or\u00a0our two children anything out of\u00a0the goodness of\u00a0her heart. She is\u00a0employed and makes decent money. She can afford\u00a0it, and\u00a0I don\u2019t want my\u00a0children to\u00a0share a\u00a0room.\n

When I\u00a0brought this\u00a0up, my\u00a0husband got offended and said, \u2019We could make your office the baby\u2019s room. It\u2019s not like you\u2019d be\u00a0working when the baby comes.\u2019 Words cannot describe the frustration\u00a0I felt at\u00a0that moment.\u201d\n\n

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Can We\u00a0Find a\u00a0Compromise?\n\n
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The expecting mother reveals she has suggested various other compromises, \u201cWhen I\u00a0told my\u00a0husband that giving up\u00a0the office is\u00a0not an\u00a0option, he\u00a0suggested that our daughter could share the room with the baby. This is\u00a0something that\u00a0I don\u2019t think is\u00a0right. We\u00a0don\u2019t know whether our baby will be\u00a0a\u00a0boy or\u00a0a\u00a0girl and either way, I\u00a0want to\u00a0respect my\u00a0daughter\u2019s personal space. Instead, I\u00a0suggested that if\u00a0he\u00a0is\u00a0so\u00a0adamant about his mother not leaving, maybe she could adjust in\u00a0the basement. It\u2019s quite spacious, and we\u00a0could make it\u00a0comfy for her.\u201d\n

\u201cHowever, my husband is really against the idea and thinks I\u2019m a bad person for thinking that way. Am I really? I just want the best for my kids. What should I do?\u201d\n\n

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