But sometimes, a mother-daughter relationship brings nothing but frustration to either side of this union. Our today\u2019s heroine has experienced a huge disappointment because of her mother\u2019s attitude to her. She told us her heart-wrenching story, seeking some support and advice, and we want to share it with the rest of our readers.\n

Relationship with her mom has always been like a\u00a0rollercoaster for the woman.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0Edward Cisneros \/ Unsplash\n
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Rachel, 33, who\u2019s currently living in\u00a0Kansas, is\u00a0a\u00a0woman, who has accidentally found out that her own mother is\u00a0ashamed of\u00a0her and doesn\u2019t want to\u00a0consider her as\u00a0her own daughter, especially when in\u00a0public. Rachel wrote a\u00a0letter to\u00a0our editorial, where she told\u00a0us the story of\u00a0her relationship with her mom. The woman wrote that she and her mom, whose name\u2019s Angela, have been in\u00a0some strange relationship since the time Rachel was a\u00a0child.\n
Angela, who\u2019s now 50\u00a0years old, gave birth to\u00a0her single daughter when she was 17. When Rachel grew\u00a0up, her mom often told her that it\u00a0was a\u00a0real challenge for her to\u00a0raise a\u00a0baby and to\u00a0manage her studies and then work. At\u00a0the same time, Angela told that she had never even had a\u00a0thought shat she shouldn\u2019t have given birth at\u00a017. Rachel recalls that her mom had never expressed any regret about having her and treated her with love and care, just like all moms\u00a0do.\n
However, the woman revealed that her relationship with her mom wasn\u2019t always stable. Angela would shower her daughter with love, buy her only the best things, take care of\u00a0her when Rachel was ill, but then she would suddenly change her attitude for the opposite. Rachel recalled that there were times when she felt absolutely abandoned by\u00a0her mom, as\u00a0Angela would treat her like an\u00a0absolute stranger, only taking care of\u00a0her basic needs, but not showing any interest in\u00a0emotional contact.\n\n
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Rachel suspected that her mom was ashamed of\u00a0her.\n\n
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The woman goes on\u00a0with her story, saying that her mom seemed to\u00a0never agree with her life choices. Rachel works as\u00a0a\u00a0secretary in\u00a0a\u00a0small company that sells spare parts for vehicles. Angela has always been saying that Rachel should be\u00a0more career-oriented and get a\u00a0promotion.\n
When in\u00a0public, she liked to\u00a0exaggerate Rachel\u2019s job achievements and often lied to\u00a0people about her daughter\u2019s career status, trying to\u00a0present her like a\u00a0more successful woman. Rachel says that her mom definitely had her own understanding of\u00a0\u201csuccess\u201d and acted like her daughter was not good enough.\n
The same situation was with Rachel\u2019s private life. Whenever she started a\u00a0relationship with a\u00a0man, Angela was there with her advice and criticism. She didn\u2019t approve of\u00a0most of\u00a0her daughter\u2019s love choices. Rachel ended up\u00a0hiding her current relationship from her mom, and Angela was thinking her daughter was single, when in\u00a0fact, she wasn\u2019t.\n
All of these made Rachel feel that not only her mom had too ambitious plans towards her, but she was actually ashamed of her daughter. When this thought first came to Rachel\u2019s mind, she simply decided to let it go and accepted her mom\u2019s decisions. But little did she know that the most frustrating revelation was still waiting ahead.\n\n
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Rachel accidentally found out the most painful information.\n\n
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Rachel goes on\u00a0with her story, saying that the most shocking revelation has happened just accidentally. A\u00a0couple of\u00a0months ago, she used her mom\u2019s\u00a0Facebook\u00a0account. She explained, \u201cI\u00a0used her account to\u00a0find a\u00a0school friend of\u00a0mine. I\u00a0had lost the credentials to\u00a0my\u00a0own page, so\u00a0decided\u00a0I would use my\u00a0mom\u2019s one, just for the searching purposes. I\u00a0accidentally clicked on\u00a0the \u2018profile information\u2019 and \u2018family\u2019 section. What I\u00a0saw there, made me\u00a0cry.\u201d\n
The woman continues, saying that her mom added her friend\u2019s daughter as\u00a0her own daughter on\u00a0Facebook. She writes, \u201cIt\u00a0couldn\u2019t have been a\u00a0mistake, because my\u00a0profile was also in\u00a0her friend list, and she did it\u00a0on\u00a0purpose. What is\u00a0more, I\u00a0found her friend\u2019s post where they posted a\u00a0picture of\u00a0their daughter and my\u00a0mom wrote under this post that she loved that girl and wished she was her daughter.\u201d\n\n
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The young woman is\u00a0now feeling very uncomfortable and totally sad.\n\n
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Rachel wrote, \u201cAs\u00a0soon as\u00a0I found out that my\u00a0mom literally hated the fact that I\u2019m her daughter, I\u00a0wanted to\u00a0talk to\u00a0her. But she said nothing, just pointed out that\u00a0I shouldn\u2019t have investigated her Facebook page, and that it\u2019s her private thing.\u201d\n
She now stopped talking to\u00a0her mom, but at\u00a0the same time, she feels like she\u2019s doing something wrong. She wrote to\u00a0us in\u00a0order to\u00a0get a\u00a0piece of\u00a0advice about her further\u00a0communication with her mother. And we\u2019d love to\u00a0share some thoughts on\u00a0this with Rachel.\n\n
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We\u00a0advise you to\u00a0let things settle down and talk to\u00a0your mom again.\n\n
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We\u2019re grateful to\u00a0Rachel for sharing her story with\u00a0us. Though we\u00a0imagine how it\u00a0feels when you discover that your mom doesn\u2019t want to\u00a0have you as\u00a0a\u00a0daughter, we\u00a0think you need to\u00a0talk to\u00a0her once again.\n
Do\u00a0it\u00a0when emotions get less sharp and when both of\u00a0you are ready to\u00a0discuss things without losing your temper. Try to\u00a0act like your mom\u2019s friend, not like her daughter. Maybe what she\u2019s been lacking all this time is\u00a0the possibility to\u00a0open to\u00a0you about her own difficulties and insecurities. Early motherhood might have taken its toll on\u00a0her attitude towards you, as\u00a0she might subconsciously be\u00a0blaming you of\u00a0being deprived of\u00a0many opportunities in\u00a0her life.\n
This way or\u00a0that, finding peace with your mom is\u00a0the thing that you probably want yourself, as\u00a0you said you\u2019re feeling uncomfortable about not communicating with her now. We\u00a0think that you both also might want to\u00a0apply to\u00a0a\u00a0specialist, who\u2019ll help you and your mom reach some understanding and solve the issues that you both have.\n
And here\u2019s yet another\u00a0emotional story\u00a0of\u00a0a\u00a0woman, who found out the truth about the real relationship between her mom and her husband.\n
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