However, the early pregnancy of his daughter is not the biggest shock for the parents. The issue is that for all 15 years, they have been hiding a terrible family secret from their daughter, and now they don\u2019t know how to reveal it.\n

The man started his post with a\u00a0shocking family fact from the past.\n\n
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A\u00a053-year-old dad turned to\u00a0Reddit to\u00a0ask people for a\u00a0piece of\u00a0advice in\u00a0his tough family situation. He\u00a0started his\u00a0post, saying that he\u00a0and his wife Rose, 53, had their older daughter Sarah, 31, when they were 22.\n
He\u00a0explained how it\u00a0all was for them, saying, \u00abWe\u00a0were young and broke, but managed, and now we\u00a0raised Sarah the best we\u00a0could. She got pregnant at\u00a015. It\u00a0was a\u00a0very depressing time for her, she had to\u00a0go\u00a0to\u00a0therapy, and never told\u00a0us anything about the father, which always upset her, so\u00a0we\u00a0never pushed the issue.\u00bb\n
The man goes on\u00a0with his story, saying, that Sarah was very upset about her pregnancy. He\u00a0says, \u00abShe originally wanted to\u00a0terminate, but kept canceling, and eventually told\u00a0us she wanted to\u00a0give her up\u00a0for adoption. But five months into the pregnancy, when she was discussing with a\u00a0social worker for a\u00a0couple to\u00a0adopt, the couple dropped out of\u00a0the adoption.\u00bb\n\n
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The story took a\u00a0very whimsical turn some time after.\n\n
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The man continues his post,\u00a0saying, \u00abAfter trying to\u00a0find more couples, Sarah asked\u00a0us if\u00a0we\u00a0wanted to\u00a0adopt. Rose and\u00a0I were both 38\u00a0at this point, and we\u00a0had both been discussing having another child, so\u00a0we\u00a0ended up\u00a0adopting our daughter Ellie when Sarah had her at\u00a016.\u00bb\n
Their family kept growing even more. The man wrote, \u00abTwo years after Ellie, my\u00a0wife and\u00a0I had our son Logan (13) biologically. Growing\u00a0up, we\u00a0always planned on\u00a0telling Ellie she was adopted, but we\u00a0knew with telling her that, we\u00a0had to\u00a0tell her Sarah was her bio mother.\u00bb\n\n
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The relationship in\u00a0the family was developing in\u00a0a\u00a0quite dramatic way.\n\n
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But the\u00a0relationship\u00a0in\u00a0the family was not an\u00a0ordinary one. The man\u00a0explained, \u00abSarah never became close with Ellie, not even as\u00a0sisters. She moved out after the birth and lived with Rose\u2019s sister. She has always shown her sisterly love to\u00a0Logan, but never towards Ellie.
\nThere has always been conflicting feelings with Sarah I have seen posts on Sarah\u2019s Instagram where she posted a picture of what was supposed to be the five of us, but Ellie was cut out. I confronted her about this, and she says it\u2019s too painful.
\nHowever, a\u00a0couple of\u00a0years ago she showed up\u00a0not very sober, begging\u00a0us to\u00a0let\u00a0us see her \u2019daughter\u2019. We\u00a0talked to\u00a0her and let her stay, but did not let her near Ellie since she was not in\u00a0the proper condition. We\u00a0found out from her husband she had suffered several miscarriages and was told to\u00a0consider a\u00a0surrogate.\u00bb\n
The man continues, saying, \u00abShe ended up doing that four years ago and has since had twins Jack and Jill (3M and F) who are biologically hers. Ellie has loved being an aunt to the twins and Sarah has encouraged this with Ellie, and has been inviting Ellie over her house for family time with Logan, who loves being an uncle. We have asked Sarah that in light of the twins, and Ellie being close to them, wouldn\u2019t it be time to tell Ellie the truth, but Sarah keeps claiming she is not ready.\u00bb\n\n
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Now the parents need to\u00a0tell the truth to\u00a0their daughter, at\u00a0any cost.\n\n
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Now the family is\u00a0facing a\u00a0huge dilemma.\n
The man\u00a0wrote, \u00abRecently, Ellie came to\u00a0us and has told\u00a0us she is\u00a0pregnant. This time it\u00a0is\u00a0a\u00a0completely different situation, we\u00a0have met the father, he\u00a0is\u00a0a\u00a0childhood friend of\u00a0hers. We\u00a0had the talk with Ellie long ago, as\u00a0we\u00a0did with Sarah. We\u00a0approached the situation calmly and have since met with the father and his parents.
\nEllie is\u00a0insistent on\u00a0keeping the baby. She is\u00a03\u00a0months along. We\u00a0have not told Sarah yet, we\u00a0do\u00a0not know how to\u00a0approach the situation, we\u00a0don\u2019t know how she will be\u00a0able to\u00a0take\u00a0it. My\u00a0wife and\u00a0I are considering telling Ellie the truth, but we\u00a0need Sarah to\u00a0be\u00a0there.\u00bb\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
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People of\u00a0Reddit expressed their opinions, and supported the desperate man.\n\n
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Sarah is irrelevant here. You are acting like you\u2019re just looking after Ellie until Sarah wanted her back. You are Ellie\u2019s parents. You\u2019ve raised her and you both need to sit down with Ellie\u2019s and ask what her plans are with school, raising the baby, finances for the baby. You really need to step up here, cos you\u2019ve dropped the ball twice now. \u00a9 Quiet-Hamster6509 \/ Reddit\n
Sarah seems very troubled about her daughter and the biological father. Unfortunately, I think the only way for help for her would be therapy if she\u2019s willing to see a professional to help her heal mentally. This is a very sad case and I hope the best for you all and your family. I wouldn\u2019t tell the 15-year-old anything yet. I think until Sarah gets help and can finally deal with her inner demons, she should be the one to eventually tell her. I wish the best for ya, and I do hope it works out! \u00a9 Steve-19741974 \/ Reddit\n
Yes, Ellie needs to know. She\u2019s needed to know for some time now. However, blowing up a 15-year-old\u2019s entire world view, her understanding of her own family, and revealing what, to her, will be a major betrayal, is absolutely not something to be done while she\u2019s pregnant. \u00a9 fernyexotic \/ Reddit\n\n\n
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Reunited adoptee here. You have now raised an\u00a0LDA\u00a0\u2014 Late Discovery Adoptee. And you can ask almost every adoptee (from every era\u00a0\u2014 I\u2019m a\u00a070s-era, closed adoption adoptee) and they\u2019ll tell you that if\u00a0your adopted child remembers being told they were adopted, you\u2019ve done it\u00a0wrong. An\u00a0adoptee should always know their truth, and you\u2019re done screwed the pooch with this. I\u00a0have no\u00a0knowledge of\u00a0the first time\u00a0I was told\u00a0I was adopted. My\u00a0baby book is\u00a0even for adopters, exceptionally forward-thinking for the 70s! I\u00a0reunited at\u00a018, and\u00a0I can honestly say that being adopted is\u00a0the least of\u00a0my\u00a0issues. Telling me\u00a0from the beginning was the absolutely correct thing to\u00a0do. You need to\u00a0sit her down asap and tell her the story, Sarah is\u00a0rather immaterial here.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0stacey1771\u00a0\/ Reddit\n
The best friend\u00a0I ever had in\u00a0this world became pregnant at\u00a013\u00a0with a\u00a022-year-old man\u2019s baby. I\u00a0knew it\u00a0was going to\u00a0wreck her to\u00a0give the baby\u00a0up, and\u00a0I begged her to\u00a0keep\u00a0it. She kept saying it\u00a0wasn\u2019t her decision, and her mom kept pressuring her to\u00a0give up\u00a0the baby. I\u00a0begged her to\u00a0reach out to\u00a0people who could help her. But, she flat refused. She put distance between herself and that child, and she did it\u00a0for that baby. It\u00a0absolutely killed that girl inside. There\u2019s a\u00a0new person in\u00a0there. She can\u2019t form attachments anymore. I\u00a0was the last person she loved. I\u00a0said all that to\u00a0say this. There is\u00a0a\u00a0hell of\u00a0a\u00a0burden on\u00a0your daughter. Have you ever acknowledged that with her? I\u00a0think you should seek the advice of\u00a0a\u00a0professional. I\u00a0think there\u2019s a\u00a0lot to\u00a0unpack in\u00a0the fact your biological daughter never felt comfortable opening up\u00a0to\u00a0you.\u00a0\u00a9\u00a0Unknown author\u00a0\/ Reddit\n\n
Relationships with adult children don\u2019t always turn out the way we\u00a0want them\u00a0to. Here\u2019s the\u00a0story\u00a0of\u00a0a\u00a0woman who had to\u00a0kick her adult daughter out of\u00a0the house.\n
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