{"id":85697,"date":"2024-10-18T10:18:48","date_gmt":"2024-10-18T03:18:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=85697"},"modified":"2024-10-18T10:18:48","modified_gmt":"2024-10-18T03:18:48","slug":"my-stepson-is-angry-after-i-refused-to-watch-his-kids-im-not-a-free-babysitter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/my-stepson-is-angry-after-i-refused-to-watch-his-kids-im-not-a-free-babysitter\/","title":{"rendered":"My stepson is angry after I refused to watch his kids \u2014 I\u2019m not a free babysitter"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Stepparent and stepchild relationships can be difficult, and sometimes, a bond just doesn\u2019t form.\n</p><p>A woman took to Reddit to share that even after years of trying, she couldn\u2019t connect with her stepson. This led to her decision not to take on a grandparent role for his kids, showing how complicated blended families can be.\n</p><h1><strong>The stepmom never really bonded with her stepson.\n<figure id='\"attachment_171563\"' class='\"wp-caption' alignnone aria-describedby='\"caption-attachment-171563\"'><img loading='\"lazy\"' decoding='\"async\"' class='\"size-full' wp-image-171563 src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/timelesslife.info%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/10%5C/Screenshot_402.png%5C%22" sizes='\"auto,' srcset='\"https:\/\/timelesslife.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/Screenshot_402.png' https: alt='\"\"' width='\"646\"' height='\"602\"' data-adbro-processed='\"true\"' title='\"\"'><figcaption id='\"caption-attachment-171563\"' class='\"wp-caption-text\"'>For illustration purposes only | Source: Freepik\n<p>It\u2019s a bit complicated. I\u2019m a stepmom to 5 great kids. I became their stepmom when the oldest was just 9, and over time, I adopted all of them\u2014except one, Nick. From the start, Nick made it clear he didn\u2019t want me to be his mother, and I respected that. But when Nick turned 18, he made it obvious he didn\u2019t care about me at all.\n</p><p>I wasn\u2019t invited to his wedding or any holidays he hosted. The final blow was when he said he would only come to Christmas at my house if I wasn\u2019t there. Since then, we\u2019ve barely spoken. Nick also drifted away from his siblings. Now, he has 2 daughters, and suddenly, he called me. We started talking, which surprised me.\n</p><p>After some time, he complained about not getting help with his kids and asked me to watch them on Sundays and act as a grandparent. I bluntly told him that he\u2019s the reason he doesn\u2019t have a village to help him, as he burned those bridges himself. He didn\u2019t like that, called me a jerk, and hung up. My husband isn\u2019t sure how to feel but left the decision to me since I\u2019d be the one mainly taking care of the kids because he travels for work a lot.\n</p><h1><strong>The poster provided some extra details in the comments\n<p>\u201cIn his own words, Nick has made it clear that I\u2019m not and never will be his mother. He\u2019s the middle child, and while he never gives examples, he\u2019s always said I\u2019m just \u2018too much\u2019 for him. My relationships with the other four kids are great. I believe Nick has realized that he\u2019s isolated himself from the rest of the family.\u201d\n</p><p>\u201cI don\u2019t want to get attached. He might suddenly cut them (the grandkids) off from me. That\u2019s not something I want to go through, and I feel it will happen. Unless our relationship improves, which will take much work, I should stay away for now.\u201d\n</p><p>\u201cI don\u2019t want to be free childcare. If he wants to improve the relationship, start with lunch, not ask me to watch his kids.\u201d\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"</p><p>Stepparent and stepchild relationships can be difficult, and sometimes, a bond just doesn\u2019t form. A woman took to Reddit to share that even after years of trying, she couldn\u2019t connect with her stepson. This led to her decision not to take on a grandparent role for his kids, showing how complicated blended families can be. &hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":85698,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[642,657],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-85697","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moral-story","category-love-and-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85697","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=85697"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85697\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":85700,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85697\/revisions\/85700"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/85698"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=85697"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=85697"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=85697"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}</p></strong></h1></figcaption></figure></strong></h1>