I thought I hit the jackpot with my fianc\u00e9-kind, protective, and financially stable.\n

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Days before our wedding, we hosted his friends, but they kept exchanging odd glances and staring at me strangely. I eavesdropped as his best man was whispering to another guy. To my horror, he said, \u201cPoor girl, she has no idea she\u2019s about to become a stepmom and raise a teenager in her house.\u201d\n
I was stunned-what stepdaughter? I confronted my fianc\u00e9, and he completely broke down. After an hour of rambling, he finally admitted that he was divo:rced and had a 14-year-old daughter. In our 2 years together, he had never once mentioned her. He explained that his daughter lived with her mom in another state and that he sent child support, but they rarely saw each other since they weren\u2019t close.\n
However, now that the mother was remarrying, his daughter was going to come live with us. He had just found out the week before but couldn\u2019t bring himself to tell me, planning to do so \u201cafter the wedding stress was over.\u201d\n
My world crumbled when I uncovered this secret, showing that my fianc\u00e9 is a liar and has a hidden, twisted side.\n
So, just 3 days before the wedding, I made the painful decision to call it off. Now, I\u2019m having second thoughts. Was I too harsh? Did I overreact?\n
Harper\n
Harper, this is a difficult issue. Here are four bits of advise specific to your situation.\n
Reflect on your values and boundaries.\n
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Take some time to seriously consider your personal ideals and boundaries. Consider how important transparency and honesty are in your relationship. Consider whether you can accept and welcome the unexpected change in your future and the obligations that come with it.\n
If your fianc\u00e9\u2019s lack of disclosure\u00a0feels like a fundamental breach of trust, make sure to confront it before making any decisions. Your comfort and readiness to embrace this new position should lead your decision on whether to cancel the wedding or not.\n
Communicate with your fianc\u00e9.\n
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Talk openly with your fianc\u00e9 about his daughter and the ramifications of her moving in with you. Discuss how you both plan to manage this shift and discuss any worries you have.\n
Understanding his point of view and the actions he is prepared to take is critical to ensuring that you are both on the same page when it comes to parenting and family dynamics. This talk can help you determine whether your fianc\u00e9\u2019s aims match your expectations for the future.\n
Seek professional guidance.\n
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Consider consulting a couples counselor or therapist. They can assist you and your fianc\u00e9 in navigating the emotional complexity of this circumstance and provide transition management tools.\n
A professional can also help you handle any unresolved feelings and determine whether you can rebuild trust and adapt your goals in a way that works for both of you.\n
Consider taking a brief separation.\n
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Before reaching a final decision, consider taking a small break to obtain clarity and distance. Use your time apart to prioritize self-care and engage in things that bring you joy and relaxation. This could involve hobbies, socializing with friends, or discovering new interests.\n
This break will allow you to reflect on your emotions and priorities, as well as whether you are prepared to accept the new circumstances. It will also allow you to assess whether the connection still corresponds with your long-term goals.\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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