{"id":87692,"date":"2024-11-01T10:41:19","date_gmt":"2024-11-01T03:41:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/?p=87692"},"modified":"2024-11-01T10:43:33","modified_gmt":"2024-11-01T03:43:33","slug":"my-husband-has-adopted-a-cringy-habit-i-found-out-why-hes-doing-it-and-now-im-filing-for-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/my-husband-has-adopted-a-cringy-habit-i-found-out-why-hes-doing-it-and-now-im-filing-for-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"My Husband Has Adopted a Cringy Habit, I Found Out Why He\u2019s Doing It, and Now I\u2019m Filing for Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"

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A\u00a0woman wrote\u00a0us a\u00a0letter to\u00a0complain about her husband\u2019s weird behavior.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0Christian Buehner \/ Unsplash\n
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A\u00a0woman named Joanna, 34, has recently sent a\u00a0letter to\u00a0our editorial, where she told\u00a0us about her\u00a0family\u00a0conflict that has arisen out of\u00a0a\u00a0seemingly innocent, and even humorous, thing.\n
She began her letter, saying that she and her husband, Ian, have been happily married for over a\u00a0decade now. Their family has always been a\u00a0model to\u00a0follow for many people around, because peace, mutual understanding and mutual support were some features that dominated in\u00a0their union.\n
Joanna said that no\u00a0one would have expected that the things could turn so\u00a0bad in\u00a0their marriage, that they are rapidly\u00a0approaching\u00a0a\u00a0divorce now.\n
Joanna explained that it\u00a0all started with a\u00a0habit that her husband adopted about a\u00a0year ago. The woman wrote, \u00abWe\u00a0can all go\u00a0through phases and pick up\u00a0irritating habits, and oftentimes we\u00a0just need our spouses to\u00a0gently inform\u00a0us if\u00a0we\u2019ve adopted an\u00a0extremely egregious habit.\u00bb\n
The woman continues, saying, \u00abLast year, my husband has picked up a habit where he started talking like a baby. At first, it was hilarious for me, but it quickly passed into cringeworthy behavior.\u00bb\n\n
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Joanna\u2019s husband started talking in\u00a0the most embarrassing way.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0Almos Bechtold \/ Unsplash\n
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Joanna explained, \u00abHe\u00a0started using such words as\u00a0doggo, birb, meow meow, sammiches, chicky nuggies, and he\u00a0even added a\u00a0toddler-like \u2019lisp\u2019 to\u00a0the words he\u00a0pronounced. The ones that really got gross for me\u00a0were childish euphemisms for love, intimacy and body parts.\u00bb\n
The woman revealed that their\u00a0relationship\u00a0was affected by\u00a0this habit. She wrote, \u00abWe\u00a0hadn\u2019t had any affectionate relationship for over six months because he\u00a0couldn\u2019t stop paying me\u00a0compliments, but naming my\u00a0body in\u00a0the most ridiculous, childish way. It\u00a0just made me\u00a0more and more resentful and disgusted.\u00bb\n
Ian behaved like this not only at\u00a0home, with his wife, but also in\u00a0public, which was unbearable for Joanna. She revealed, \u00abOnce, we\u00a0were out at\u00a0a\u00a0restaurant with some mutual friends. Ian actually ordered a \u2019chicky sammy\u2019, which was supposed to\u00a0stand for \u2019chicken sandwich\u2019. He\u00a0said that exact phrase. All our friends noticed that cringy baby talk, because Ian wanted to\u00a0continue the \u2019joke\u2019 and started talking with the full imitation of\u00a0a\u00a0toddler accent.\u00bb\n\n
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The family conflict was inevitable as\u00a0things were getting even worse.\n\n
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\u00a9\u00a0Abigail Keenan \/ Unsplash\n
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Joanna goes on\u00a0with her letter, saying that after that incident she couldn\u2019t stomach the very idea of\u00a0going out with Ian to\u00a0any public place. She\u2019d go\u00a0out to\u00a0a\u00a0bar with friends, but she was embarrassed by\u00a0the only thought of\u00a0Ian joining her and saying \u00abMe\u00a0wanty \u2019nother sammich!\u00bb .\n
The woman revealed, \u00abI\u00a0couldn\u2019t figure out where it\u00a0came from. I\u00a0had no\u00a0idea why he\u00a0was doing this. I\u00a0hit my\u00a0limit when we\u00a0were shopping together and everything seemed just fine until Ian gasped like a\u00a0kid, rushed to\u00a0the ice cream section and jumped up\u00a0and down yelling \u2019Ice cweam! I\u00a0want chocwit!\u2019\u00bb\n
Joanna revealed that she was mortified. All other visitors were staring at\u00a0them. But it\u00a0didn\u2019t make Ian stop doing that silly thing. At\u00a0one point, Joanna just said that he\u00a0should talk to\u00a0her like an\u00a0adult, or\u00a0she\u2019d be\u00a0leaving.\n
The woman wrote, \u00abSince then, things have been extremely bad between\u00a0us. I\u00a0tried to\u00a0explain to\u00a0him that a\u00a040-year-old man with a\u00a0mortgage and retirement account cannot ask for \u2019Chocwit ice cweam\u2019, but he\u00a0just wouldn\u2019t listen.\u00bb\n
Even Ian\u2019s mom was involved at some point. She kept telling Joanna that Ian was probably bored, and she also tried to reassure her DIL that she actually should be happy that Ian is surviving through his midlife crisis in such a way, rather than him having a romance with young ladies somewhere at local clubs.\n\n
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Joanna was desperate, and then she found out the truth about this strange habit.\n\n
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\u00a9 Matheus Ferrero \/ Unsplash\n
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Joanna wrote that one day, she approached her husband and started talking to\u00a0him very seriously. The woman said that she suspected that this was a\u00a0tumor, a\u00a0childhood drama, or\u00a0a\u00a0mental health issue, that cause such behavior of\u00a0her spouse. She said, \u00abI\u00a0talked to\u00a0him and suggested we\u00a0go\u00a0to\u00a0a\u00a0doctor because of\u00a0how worried I\u00a0was. And only after\u00a0I said this, Ian told me\u00a0the truth.\u00bb\n
The woman continues, saying, \u00abIt\u00a0turned out that it\u00a0was a\u00a0bet with one of\u00a0his friends. The whole thing started as\u00a0them trying to\u00a0embarrass each other in\u00a0public. A\u00a0friend bet Ian that he\u00a0couldn\u2019t keep it\u00a0up\u00a0for the whole year. The only exception was when Ian was at\u00a0work, because of\u00a0course he\u00a0couldn\u2019t put his career at\u00a0risk.\u00bb\n
The appalled woman wrote, \u00abHe\u00a0couldn\u2019t put his career at\u00a0risk, but he\u00a0decided to\u00a0jeopardize his marriage instead. At\u00a0what cost? The prize was a\u00a0signed baseball. I\u00a0was speechless.\u00bb Joanna said that Ian wasn\u2019t joking, like she thought before. In\u00a0fact, he\u00a0was dead serious. What made it\u00a0even worse, was that he\u00a0kept all videos where Joanna reacted to\u00a0his baby talk, and where other people were staring at\u00a0them when he\u00a0did this.\n
The woman said, \u00abIn\u00a0the end, Ian wasn\u2019t remorseful. He\u00a0thought\u00a0I would also laugh at\u00a0this \u2019small innocent joke\u2019, and he\u00a0even thought I\u2019d find it\u00a0hysterical. But it\u00a0wasn\u2019t funny for\u00a0me, and he\u00a0was sincerely surprised! He\u00a0wasn\u2019t apologetic for ruining our private moments with this silly speech, he\u00a0wasn\u2019t sorry for embarrassing me\u00a0in\u00a0public, and, what is\u00a0even worse, he\u00a0intended to\u00a0continue doing this to\u00a0win the bet. I\u00a0was terrified.\u00bb\n
The desperate woman closed her letter, saying, \u00abAfter a\u00a0lot of\u00a0scandals and tears, I\u00a0left Ian. I\u2019m heading up\u00a0to\u00a0another city to\u00a0stay with my\u00a0family through my\u00a0healing process. And I\u2019m definitely filing for divorce. I\u00a0hope it\u00a0was worth\u00a0it.\u00bb\n\n
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Our advice to\u00a0Joanna will\u00a0be: take time to\u00a0think it\u00a0over.\n\n
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We\u2019re extremely grateful to\u00a0Joanna for her trust in\u00a0us and for her sincere story.\n
We\u00a0probably all know that one of\u00a0the reasons why many couples stay together for many years, is\u00a0that they have common things to\u00a0laugh\u00a0at. Sense of\u00a0humor may save marriages, make them more colorful and add up\u00a0some joy to\u00a0a\u00a0dull family routine.\n
But we\u00a0sincerely believe that Joanna had a\u00a0right to\u00a0feel offended, because her husband really went too far. Ian could have informed his wife about the bet and make her his \u00abpartner\u00bb, not a\u00a0\u00abvictim\u00bb in\u00a0it.\n
Now, Joanna is\u00a0obviously feeling betrayed, and even mocked\u00a0at. But we\u2019d advise her not to\u00a0rush to\u00a0a\u00a0divorce lawyer, but rather let herself heal and then talk to\u00a0Ian again. And maybe, this time, the spouses will reach some agreement about their future family life and the role of\u00a0pranks and bets in\u00a0it.\n\n
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And here\u2019s a\u00a0woman, whose husband doesn\u2019t behave in\u00a0an\u00a0embarrassing way, and he\u00a0doesn\u2019t joke. Instead, he\u00a0keeps tampons in\u00a0his car, which don\u2019t even belong to\u00a0his wife, and when the woman found out the truth about his motives for doing\u00a0so, she wanted to\u00a0run away.\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
A\u00a0woman wrote\u00a0us a\u00a0letter to\u00a0complain about her husband\u2019s weird behavior. \u00a9\u00a0Christian Buehner \/ Unsplash A\u00a0woman named Joanna, 34, has recently sent a\u00a0letter to\u00a0our editorial, where she told\u00a0us about her\u00a0family\u00a0conflict that has arisen out of\u00a0a\u00a0seemingly innocent, and even humorous, thing. She began her letter, saying that she and her husband, Ian, have been happily married for over …\n","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":87696,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[657,642],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-87692","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-and-relationships","category-moral-story"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87692","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=87692"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87692\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":87697,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87692\/revisions\/87697"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/87696"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=87692"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=87692"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/echowoven.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=87692"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}